My friend and I (both 22f) were living together for a short period of time. Her and her bf (24m) live together, but work slightly different shifts at different places, and she asked me to try to bond with him while she was gone. It was a bit awkward at first but we did end up being friends.
We never did or spoke about anything inappropriate. We mainly played street fighter and he was even giving me advice about a boy I was \*actually\* interested in.
But one day she started acting weird and bullying me, and our mutual friends started treating me badly, too.
I didn’t say anything about it hoping it was just me, but now she’s telling me that my friendship with her bf is inappropriate, and she still wants to be friends, but she wants me to move out. I don’t plan on staying where I’m not wanted, but it hurts that everybody seems to agree that I’m doing something wrong… saying “you shouldn’t have been too friendly with him” but I wasn’t?? And she’s the one who asked me to be friends with him? And I never flirted with him or got handsy or anything… I don’t understand… Is playing street fighter and asking for advice about guys actually grounds for this? We never really had time to do much else so I really don’t get it… AITA?
NTA
Impossible to say if you’ve done anything wrong, but if your friends think you’re trying to steal someone’s boyfriend they’re probably not going to be good friends with you much longer so I’d probably look for new friends
I wish I could give multiple upvotes
NTA but if your friend is worried you might steal her bf then theres no trust = no basis for a friendship. this is probably more of an issue between your bff and her bf that she’s projecting on you
NTA – But there’s a weird line when it comes to being friends with somebody’s partner.
You want to be friends with them and get along and laugh together. But me personally would never hang out alone with somebody’s partner, especially while they’re out of town and talk about personal things like relationships. It could lead in a weird direction.
Even if you’re innocent, that person’s partner could get insecure and jealous and make accusations… as you’re finding out.
And if they asked me to, I still wouldn’t do it. I would tell them that I would rather wait for all of us go out together and do something. But that’s just me.
Sorry you’re going through this but remember, friends come and go… unfortunately.
NTA- Her still wanting to be friends makes me think its not you shes worried about, more her boyfriend. She may be feeling insecure and seeing how well you get along, have similar interests ect and shes worried he will lose interest in her and fall for you.
INFO: Does your roommate play Streetfighter with her boyfriend or game with him at all?
If you haven’t done anything wrong, and you know it for sure, then it isn’t you who’s the problem. He said, or did , something to set her off and rather than blow off her head at him she chose you as the target. He said or did something and now you’re having to pay for it. To hell with both of them, you don’t deserve this treatment.
Your friend got jealous and decided she wanted you out of the picture. She probably covered her bases with this friend group by fabricating some story of you coming on to her boyfriend. You don’t have mutual friends if they were all swayed so easily by this psyop.
My condolences, but chin up and don’t feel bad, this is 18 / 19 year old shit at best. She would’ve had you voted off the island for some other shit you did to inconvenience her at some point anyway. NTA
I bet he made a mistake saying smith good about u.
My “I spend way too much time on Reddit” theory is that your friend wanted you out of the apartment so she and bf could live solo, but rather than talk to you about it like an adult, she engineered the whole thing to have a “reason” to kick you out.
Definitely NTA