I moved in with my roommate because we agreed it would just be the two of us. At first everything was fine, we split bills, respected each other’s space, and kept things peaceful. Then she started bringing her friend over. At first it was just weekends, which I didn’t mind. But slowly it turned into weekdays too, and now her friend is here almost everyday like she lives with us. She’s in the kitchen when I wake up, in the living room when I get home, and sometimes using things without asking. They stay up late laughing when I have work early, groceries disappear faster, and the place gets messier. I started feeling like a guest in my own apartment and staying in my room just to avoid them. When I finally brought it up, my roommate said I was overreacting and that it’s just a friend visiting, I told her I didn’t sign up to live with a third person, and now things are tense between us. AITA here?
NTA. You agreed to one roommate not two. It’s fair to want boundaries so you can feel comfortable in your own home.
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There likely are rules about often guests can stay the night. You should check what the lease says and remind your roommate that unless she plans on putting her friend on the lease which you haven’t agreed to, the friend has to come over less. You don’t have to just out up with this because the friend being over so often is driving up your bills. If your roommate doesn’t do the right thing, have the landlord step in.
NTA, You signed up for two people not a surprise third roommate who’s basically living there rent free.
NTA she’s not “just visiting” she’s an unapproved roommate atp. She might start sleeping over too. If she wants to live with you guys she should pay her share of rent lmao
NTA: You have a third roommate. Simple as that. Take another look at that lease, double check the rules you have agreed to (chances are there is something in there about utilities). Separate your groceries and do not tolerate theft of your food, which you have paid money for. If this keeps up, look for another place, because it doesn’t sound like the situation will improve.
Edit to add: Call them on noise, in the moment. Pop your head out and ask them to be quiet. You have a right to sleep. And do not tolerate someone using your things. Stand up for yourself. If this person is living rent free in your home, do not allow them to cost you more money. If your current roommate has an issue with it, she can move out or go to the friend’s place… If she even has one
NTA. Talk to the landlord, get out of the lease, take all that is yours and leave them to it
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NTA and check with your landlord, usually there is a limit to overnights in your rental agreement.
Lol am i the only one that immediately thought ‘oh hunny she’s not a friend’
r/SapphoAndHerFriend on line one.
Why are roommates so difficult? Yours is an AH and trying to gaslight you. You need to get out of there. Good luck!
NTA often see this with one roommate getting a partner and suddenly it’s 3 people but you’re covering 50% not 33% of costs whilst being pushed out of communal settings
NTA because in fact you didn’t. And the lease agreement probably doesn’t allow for a third party to stay more than a certain number of days. It’s the same as if she had a boyfriend suddenly staying all the time and eating your groceries – she needs to pay her share, ie a third of the rent, or go