I’ve sorta just been wanting to get this off my chest cause So I was in a friend group of like 4 other guys Now there was this one other guy that I was pretty good friends with at the time (guy1) Now guy1 wasn’t the most confident IAnyways randomly one day as I was talking about my one of my hobbies, he just tells me like I was making him angry “shut the fck up” so I was confused and just kinda quit talking. This kept happening with different topics too for a few months. Then out of no where he sends a group text that my other friend (call him friend) that his gf was a female dog. This was random and not expected. I sided with friend that this was random and mean, but I didn’t really show it that much. After a while of being a medium for them. I was texting guy1 privately when he said that the only people he needed in life was 2 dudes he didn’t even like anymore and one he barely hung out with. Mind you I was texting with him and he didn’t even say anything about me. Anyways after a while I tried to calm them down and it stopped until guy1 decided to bring it up again where the whole situation redid itself. After that I wasn’t really fcking wit him and started sorta ignoring him a lil. But I had to do a group project with him and as he was at my house he started disrespecting my family like calling my mother a dishwasher. Moving on after another skip, he decided to start a fight with me and told me he to shut the fck up in the gc and I wasn’t happy that day so I kinda Js went off on him about being a bad friend, person, and a bad bf (he was trying to date sum1) after this we tried flipping what I said onto me and said I was a bad friend which doesn’t make sense because I convinced him multiple times to not end it. Along with helping him get a gf and helping him wit his depression. So I pointed it out and then he started just spamming slurs and trying to ig bully me. After another time skip it was a random day and I was ignoring him throughout the time. Then he sent a ss to the gc about his gf. It was a topic that she was embarrassed about, and she didn’t even want him to know. So I pointed out that it was a jerk move to send a ss to the gc about he being embarrassed and friend and the 2 others backed me up. Guy1 tried saying that everyone was against him and that everyone wanted him dead. After a while of one of the others in the gc (guy2) tryna calm guy1 down he suddenly started just basically repeating what he said in the first fight about how I was a bad friend I didnt really realize it at the time but I look and find like 100 messages talking about me So I respond to all the messages about me And that’s how the whole fight sorta ended Now though he keeps trying to act like we are still friend and trying to be nice to me I’ve told him multiple times that I don’t want to be his friend and that i don’t care what he thinks. Idk and idrc if I’m the asshole I’m just glad I dodged a bullet with not being his friend anymore
Stay out of drama. People get killed for less.
NTA for cutting him off. Dude sounds exhausting and weirdly hostile.
But let’s be real, the title makes it sound more villain-arc than what actually happened. You didn’t mastermind some Game of Thrones betrayal, you just… told people what he was already doing. He did the work himself. All you did was not defend him.
The real red flags:
-telling you to shut up randomly
-insulting your mom in your own house
-leaking his gf’s private stuff
-spamming slurs when called out
-then pretending nothing happened
That’s not a friend. That’s a recurring problem.
Honestly the funniest part is him saying everyone’s against him while actively giving everyone reasons to be against him.
You don’t owe loyalty to someone who treats you like their emotional punching bag. You didn’t “turn the group against him.” He speedran that himself.
Seems like a lot of mess to me all the way around. I would say you dodged a bullet staying friends with someone who keeps telling you to shut up and shares sensitive ss of his gf to a group chat and calls her names.
I’d just avoid it altogether. Not really enough to say who all is an AH besides guy 1
I don’t think you’re TA. I do think it sounds a mess and you are best out of it!