Getting ready for work in the morning, girlfriend had a bag of popcorn pre-packed. I went to eat a piece without asking, and she yelled at me telling me it was a violation of her boundaries. I didn’t respond to being yelled at and continued to get ready, she then left the apartment without saying goodbye
YTA You took her food without asking and then ignored her when she got upset. Her raising her voice at your lack of manners doesn’t excuse your awful behaviour.
Wait. You opened the bag of popcorn she had packed for her lunch without asking her?
Dude. What are you – a toddler? Do you seriously don’t understand how much will ripping a bag open inconvenience the person who had the bag packed for lunch? Or do you just not care?
YTA
YTA. Lack of impulse control.
YTA, packed lunches are already usually small, so for you to reduce it even more is totally selfish and greedy.
pre-packed as in sealed? YTA if you opened it, it will suck in moisture and go stale real fast
In fact YTA if you started grazing her lunch at all, it’s not a freakin buffet
It’s not just that it will go stale. The bigger issue is that the popcorn is no longer contained in the bag and it will spill everywhere. Ugh.
If you had helped yourself to some popcorn she had intended to use for her lunch, that would have been one thing.
But to open her lunchbox, take out the popcorn, open the popcorn and eat popcorn, that is several steps too far.
You’re hungry I get it, but there must surely have been other food available?!
I cannot believe you brought this to Reddit when YTA, clearly!!!
YTA and if she was that mad, she’s probably told you not to do that already.
Why are you eating her lunch. Get your own popcorn. Have you had this convo before where she said, hey, don’t eat my lunch?
YTA dude. You’re trying to phrase it as not a big deal, but you literally would’ve had to go out of your way to open the bag of popcorn from HER lunchbox. If you were hungry and you’re presumably in the kitchen anyway, just grab a different snack, or–bare minimum–just ask. It literally takes two seconds.
I am actually more concerned that she’s eating popcorn for lunch.
Anyway, “a bag of popcorn pre-packed” means you had to make an effort to get some. Why would you do that? To irritate her? Because that’s probably what it felt like.
YTA
YTA . It doesn’t matter who it is, it is always impolite to take things without asking.
YTA. Seriously, a whole kitchen available to you and you dive into her lunch that she packed for herself?
It sounds like you guys have had some conflict over food before, and you knew it bothered her to have you steal her food, which is doubly bad (but also unsurprising, because behavior as selfish as stealing from your partner’s packed lunch rarely shows up in isolation). You’re supposed to be an adult, who should understand basic social norms and have the self-control to follow them. This kind of behavior would be annoying but understandable from a preschool aged child, but it’s quite the AH move from a supposed adult.
Do you take food off her plates/out of her bags often?
If so YTA for sure. That shit gets exhausting. I had an ex that did this incessantly and it’s not cute. It definitely starts to feel like a lack of respect or thoughtless behavior. Not responding to her like nothing happened instead of apologizing or even asking why she’s upset puts you in firm YTA territory