I am (22M) was always compared to my older brother (27M), the successful one.My parents joked for years that I was the lazy or less capable kid.I worked my way through college and now I’m financially stable on my own.Recently,my dad’s business started failing and they asked me for a large amount of money. My brother says he can’t help much.I said no. Not because I hate them,but because it’s hard to forget how they treated me.
Now I’m being called selfish and ungrateful.
Nta
NTA – tell them to ask your sibling since they were always the better one.
Came here to say this.
NTA. Ask exactly what it is that you’re being ungrateful FOR? The years of being told you’re lazy? The times you were treated as incapable? The times you were treated as “less than”?
Point out that if your brother is “the successful one”, then he should be in a position to help them. Ask them to explain why he isn’t.
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They should get your brother to help them.
Helping is a choice, not a debt you owe because they’re your parents. If they wanted guaranteed loyalty, maybe they shouldn’t have spent years clowning you
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Just tell them you can’t afford it, if big successful brother can’t help what makes them think you can?
NTA. Their business, their problem.
NTA: But don’t use this as an opportunity to get even. Just let them know you that, just like your brother, you are not in a position to help. No further explanation is required.
NTA.
NTA. Businesses fail, sounds like you’d be financially irresponsible to invest.
Thanks everyone for the input.I’m reading the comments even if I can’t reply to all of them.I appreciate it.