I am a (31F) and have been with my bf (27M) for 2 years. If anyone is familiar with Carl Jung and the psychology behind synchronicities, then you’ll understand this post. If not I encourage you to look into it, if you feel so inclined to understand the post better. A few months back I had a life altering event happen to me. (Nothing dangerous) shortly after that, I started to notice and interpret things differently. When I would try to talk to my bf about it he would get so frustrated and shut down the conversation and due to the complexity of the topic, I didn’t have a good way and still don’t, of explaining it and he had very little-to-zero tolerance for what he thought was me lying. The more I tried to convince him I wasn’t. The worst our arguments got. I was having real experiences and wanted to talk to someone, anyone, about it. Now I choose to stay quiet when he asks what do I mean on – I’m still learning what I can bring up to him without being blamed for starting a fight. I’ve been shown too many times that I’ll just get yelled at and called names anyways. So, AITA
YTA the only thing I got out of this post was you think you are far smarter than your boyfriend.
Edit: YTA OP. Your comments show you just want people to agree with you. You can’t answer a simple question and instead argue.
INFO: what are you noticing and interpreting differently, and how are you interpreting it now? You’re being very vague and the classic add on of “oh BTW he abuses me” at the end makes me skeptical.
getting homework on reddit is new.
YTA for not giving us enough information to judge you on, so I can only assume you’re leaving out the details that show you in the wrong. You’re trying so hard to get validation from internet strangers, presumably so you can show your BF all the upvotes on the things showing you’re right and he’s wrong.
Uh… what? His perspective is that you are lying, you say you’re trying to convince him you’re not. Lying about what? Why does he think that, and why do you need to convince him? Where is the rest of the information?
I would say you’re both the assholes cause you’re both staying in a relationship while having opposing views of life. The fact that your partner thinks you’re lying is… troubling.
YTA for being so vague. I have no idea why he thinks you’re lying.
Different take here. Your boyfriend doesn’t understand doesn’t care and is sick of it. The well Is already poisoned there. It’s ultimately up to you if you want to try to stay with this guy but IMO it’s done.
I also think you maybe making your whole life about synchronicities. I may be wrong about that. if you see/have synchronicities I think you shouldn’t talk about them so much or to anyone except maybe like minded people. I also think you shouldn’t focus on it/them. Just live your life, if these things happen they happen you don’t have to have a meaning for them. If you choose to keep trying to explain this to people you will probably push them away.
I agree and disagree. I only try to explain when he asks a question—I actually try to get out of saying anything bc I really don’t like trying to explain it to him anymore. Educating oneself on all different types of topics is not a bad thing. It doesn’t consume my day to day life at all. It’s fun to research on my spare time. I like learning. Some people claim they do too, but when it comes down to it. They “don’t” – so I’m at a crossroads ultimately. I love him and I know he loves me. Do I shrink my voice to maintain a healthy relationship and by doing so create an unhealthy relationship with myself and resentment towards him?….. If the planes going down, who puts the oxygen mask on first?
Date someone who thinks like you instead of trying to educate someone about something you know you’re right about. It’s annoying on your part, he’s sick of it and says you’re lying. You say you’re not in competition with him, as long as he knows you’re right.
What a really long, roundabout way to say absolutely nothing. How tf is anyone meant to give judgement on this?
YTA. Just break up with him. After your near death experience you should know life is too short to be this miserable.