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Me and my friend 26F travelled about an hour or so away to see my BFs gig up where he lives. He was performing at this event loads of acts were also showing, he was scheduled to be the last performance. We booked a hotel the night before as it would have been too late to drive back & we wanted to drink.
We get to the venue when it started and were having a great time, dancing to the music, watching the singers and bands. Drinking quite a bit. Now my friend is a big drinker when we go out so her drinking didn’t shock me, she had quite a lot. I don’t drink so much so I only had a couple.
It gets to almost the end of the event and she is blackout drunk. Falling all over the bless, yelling and she ended up puking over the floor too. She was a mess, usually she doesn’t get this drunk or messy. I’ve never seen her that bad. The security told her she had to leave so I helped them walk her out. We tried asking them to let her stay but they wouldn’t let her. We got outside the venue and I told her to stay outside and I would watch my Bf perform and we could leave. We travelled all the way up specifically to watch him and I’ve been excited about it for months, and why should I miss out because she can’t handle her liquor. She agrees and sits on the front steps but she’s still pretty out of it.
I go back in and watch the end of the gig, it was only another 15 minutes or something. When I leave the venue she’s gone from the spot I left her in, and some strangers came up to me that they found her up the street stumbling around crying. It was a whole ordeal and eventually the 4 of us (the strangers) get her into a taxi and we get back to the hotel. She’s still falling over making no sense and I got fed up. I helped her into bed and then left to go stay at my boyfriend’s who lives local.
In the morning I went back to the hotel and she’s angry with me that I left her alone at the hotel. I explained to her exactly what happened and she is insisting she remembers nothing which apparently never happens to her and she thinks she must have got roofied which I don’t buy. She was drinking quite a lot. Then she’s mad I left her at the venue which again we went up for one reason and it was important to me to be there for my boyfriend. I told her to wait outside and there was security outside.
So AITA?
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If your friend is that level of drunk, you don’t abandon them. Be mad at her in the morning, hell be mad at her in the moment, but leaving her by herself is and was a safety issue.
And if she had already vommitted, you shouldn’t have left her alone in a hotel either.
YTA. You left your drunk friend alone outside??! Why would you do that? It’s fine to be annoyed and mad at her, but it’s not okay to leave her stranded like that when she’s in that state. You didn’t care at all for her safety and you didn’t look after her. Also, doubting that she was roofied while also mentioning you’ve never seen her in this state before is insane. You suck.
YTA for leaving your friend who was blackout drunk. Anyone could have pulled her away in a state like that even if only for 15 mins.
Also if this was so important to you, why did you bring along your friend who’s constantly getting messy drunk?
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She may have been irresponsible or roofied. You don’t know.
Either way, you were INSANELY lucky she was OK. You abandoned her when she was in need. This was incredibly unsafe. It could have been so much worse.
YTA. Big time.
You don’t ever leave a friend who is that defenceless on their own, especially at night. She could have fallen and banged her head, she could be have been raped. All because you wanted to see your bf play a gig. Which I’m sure you’ve seen before and will see again.
You also don’t get to decide if someone is roofied or not without a medical test.
I hope she finds a friend who cares about her
YTA for putting someone in danger so you could do something you want. Those strangers could have done the opposite of find you and help, how would you have felt then?
You left her in a VERY dangerous space. Even if she wasn’t roofied, she was blackout drunk. Anyone could have taken advantage of her in so many ways. She’s lucky to be alive, not assaulted and/or trafficked!
Ironically, leaving her at the hotel is the least of your crimes, because at that point she was behind a locked door. Leaving her outside while you watched your BF perform is the greater offense. She was upset about the wrong thing.
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YTA. You never leave a friend who is that far gone alone. She was either roofied or absolutely shitfaced, of course she wasn’t going to listen to you and just stay there. I get you didn’t want to miss your boyfriends band finished, but your actions were really shitty. Then, to leave here alone in a hotel room, what if she got really sick or injured?
YTA thats how people die.. you never leave a heavily intoxicated friend.
You are a really terrible friend
Probably stop calling yourself her friend. Really poor form on your part.
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INFO: since it doesn’t seem like this post is getting the results you’re looking for either, which sub are you going to try next?
YTA, u left ur paralytic friend outside, alone – knowing she was totally fucked up, just so you could watch 15 minutes more of your boyfriend’s band play?
“why should I miss out because she can’t handle her liquor”
I really pray for my friends to never have this type of mentality