So, yesterday I had a friend and his girlfriend over to celebrare the girlfirend’s pregnancy. Let’s call them David and Nancy.
Nancy didn’t have anything to drink but David did with me. We both had a few beers nothing more. It was around 9pm when they sayed they should be going home. David stood up and I could see him being really drunk, as he didn’t eat anything before we started drinking. I told Nancy I won’t allow him to leave in this state, it is safer if both of them stay here. They agreed and I let them to use my room to sleep, I went into the guestroom.
I completely forgot to set an alarm for work and my boyfriend promised to call me around 4am. He did 7 times and I didn’t pick up, I was that tired and also a little drunk myself too. So he came to my place to wake me up and straight up went into my room. Seen David sleeping next to Nancy and assumed Nancy was me. Started yelling and cursing, that is what woke me up.
I went out and he saw me come out from a different room. He just sayed "Morning, go to work." And left. He doesn’t picks up my phone calls ever since.
AITA?
Girlfriend doesnt answer her phone, walk in on ‘girlfriend’ in bed with another man. Can hardly expect him to react any less pissed tbh
True but that should have resolved itself as soon as he saw her walk out of a whole other room. Maybe he’s embarrassed that he reacted that way but he shouldn’t be pissed at her.
Maybe he was also tired. It was 4am and he gor up and drove to her just to wake her up.
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He doesn’t pick up I wanted to talk it out as soon as it was normal morning hours, so 8 am till 10. called him since then for 10 times at least.
He’s probably embarrassed for yelling at a couple of strangers. Stop blowing up his phone, just give it some time.
Could Nancy not drive?? And I would still make them sleep in the living room just because of things like this(I have a pull out in my living room fyi)room Nancy gets the couch ?
Even Nancy can’t drive…isn’t the point of the guest room to have the guests sleep there? And why are we scheduling 4am check-ins? None of this even remotely makes any sense.
Wait I thy they were in the host bedroom?
Girl YTA for being surprised he is upset. He rang ypu several times (om your request) and you never answered. He then drives all the way to your place (again seems like he’s going out of his way for you) and walks into your room to see – what he thinks is you – in bed with another man.
Idk why you both got drunk to the point he wasn’t able to go home with his sober partner and you couldn’t wake up to several phone calls.
I also don’t see why you didn’t put the guest in the guest room
YTA not because of letting a friend sleepover, but because you had your bf call you at 4AM to wake you up for work, he probably got worried or wanted to make sure you didn’t sleep in and had issues at work. Yeah, he had an oops moment there until he realized, and then probably got mad that he had to be your alarm at 4AM cause you overslept due to hanging out with friends and being drunk. And then you say in another comment you waited till normal morning hours, 8 to 10, to call him, when you both were awake at 4am, so you took 4 hours to try to reach out.
His gut reaction was valid but it’s weird that he’s still acting this way after confirming it wasn’t you. At that point I’d have apologized and made a joke about it or something. You could send him a text and check on him but you did nothing wrong in any of this so NTA.