Throw away account because my sibling follows my normal account.
Before I start I want to say that I’m very aware that I’m privileged to get to do anything at all for my birthday and am grateful for whatever happens.
For my 21st my parents said they wanted to take me away for the weekend to somewhere that was a surprise, which I was very keen to do. I also was planning on going on a lads trip the weekend after, so asked if my parents could confirm that the place I wanted to go for that is not the same as the surprise they had planned, to which they said it was not.
Well my birthday is in two weeks and my parents have just revealed that it is the exact same place that I’m going with my mates 5 days later. I asked why they didn’t tell me before I booked the trip with my friends and they said they didn’t want to ruin the surprise. I was a little upset that this had happened, as the accommodation I had booked was non refundable.
I found out that the accommodation my parents had booked WAS refundable and I said that while I was really grateful, I wondered if they wouldn’t mind refunding it and we could just do something local together instead, as it seemed a waste to go twice when this place is kinda one and done in my mind.
This INFURIATED my parents which I felt really bad about because I didn’t mean for it to come off spoilt. I just didn’t want them to spend money on something I’ve already paid to do a week later, and to be honest I probably wouldn’t have enjoyed it as much knowing I was about to go again anyway. AITAH?
No. I dont think so. You gave them the info ahead of time. So they knew not to do it. They chose to ignore you. Its not really a good gift if it ends up wasting money. Maybe there is other things you can do with your boys are this location? Either way, I hope you have a happy 21st. Sorry about the drama. NTA