throwaway obv roommate would spot this in 2 seconds shes always on here.
26 dude, roommate 25 girl, 2 bedroom place cheshire ct-ish been here almost 2 years. rent she pays fine always on time thank god. utilities tho (light water net) in my name cuz credit reasons so she owes me half every month via venmo. or was supposed to.
half yr ago ish she just… stops. first couple times “oops forgot” “next check” then nothing. texts ignored for literal weeks. i pay full every time bc cant have no power or internet i wfh. finally tallied it up last month over $420 she stiffed me. showed her the math on paper even printed bills + venmo ghosts. said look im not tryna be dick but this aint sustainable can u start paying back $100 a paycheck or something reasonable?
she got mad quick. “ur being cheap its just utilities” “roommates spot each other” “im broke car died holiday crap.” i said yeah i know money sucks rn for me too but ive covered u months why am i the only one stressed? she said ok ok $100 month whatever.
this week tho fridge dead on normal shared crap milk eggs bread tp coffee filters. i shopped stop n shop usual haul like $70. texted pic receipt “half $35 when u get paid.” she “nope not doing shared anymore gonna get my own.” then mad texts im “holding food hostage” bc i said fine separate shelves label ur shit dont touch mine if no fair split.
now shes raging apartment “toxic” im “petty controlling” over “pennies” real roommates dont act like this. doors slamming loud music at night to spite me. couple mutuals from old job say im right gotta have boundaries after being used, but others “yta ur making living hell over money just write it off keep peace.”
honestly feel shitty bc yeah tensions high home shouldnt feel like warzone. but im so over being walked on. paid her share forever while she buys starbucks takeout whatever. maybe i shouldve sucked it up longer idk but those “ill venmo soon” lies killed it.
aita for saying no more shared anything groceries basics until she coughs up the back utilities? or am i asshole making small stuff huge deal??
its 2am typing this on phone shes still thumping music thru wall cant even think straight. sorry typos rambling roast if im wrong need real opinions.
NTA. She isn’t your dependent. She needs to grow up and take care of herself and stop mooching off you.
Nta, but stsrt changing passwords on wifi get s padlock for the electric board and shut off her rooms power, find a way to turn off the water after you have finished using it. Say its judt utilities, no biggy.
NTA, unless you guys are banging. Then maybe TA
I only bang her when she plays loud music
NTA
Time to find a new roommate. She’s been using you and know is playing the victim because you’re asking for the money she owes you. She’s become a total fucking mooch.
Since she’s gotten so petty and is now punishing you by playing loud music and such, it’s time to change the wifi password.
Hope the turd finds this post because I already know how it’s going to go lol
NTA, agree on changing the Wi-Fi pw ASAP because you can’t turn off utilities.
No payment, no Internet.
She’s being totally unreasonable.
NTA. Time for a new roommate. You said she pays her rent, when she doesn’t. Utilities are a part of the rent. She’s shorted you several hundred dollars and now made you’re living situation intolerable be “she can”. Don’t keep the peace, you’ll never have peace with this roommate. If you guys have a rental agreement, read it together. Her pettiness is probably a lease violation too.
Tell her to be an adult, knock off the bullshit and pay what she agreed to pay. she’s the one making it more difficult than it has to be.
I would phrase it as her not paying her rent in full, as she seems to believe utilities are a right, and not the privilege they are.
If its just pennies why cant she just pay you? Since its not that big of a deal? Why is she making a big deal by not paying.
If she wont pay for utilities, at least with Wifi, its in your name so change the password on the router. She doesnt get to use it until she pays.
And send her a venmo request every single month whether she pays or not. This is money that will add uo over time. If you have proof of your agreement to pay half & half small claims court is ALWAYS an option & you can usually include your filing fee
NTA Your roommate sucks. Shes the TA. Shes upset that you are holding her accountable. Hope shes not on the lease!
NTA
She’s knowingly choosing to steal from you and throwing a tantrum because you’re putting a stop to it. You even gave her every opportunity to make things right. Anyone saying you’re in the wrong or to just keep being stolen from is not someone you should listen to.
In Australia you can phone the police anonymously to make a noise complaint. Just make sure you don’t answer the door when the police arrive so she gets the message directly. Do this every time so she thinks the neighbours hate her too
Time for her to move out.
NTA. Evict her and take her to small claims.