i have a friend who started dating this guy named mike a few months ago, hes stable or at least its what she said. i just feels like hes doing the bare minimum shes currently unemployed and trying to finish her studies, so money is tight for her, the last few days its been annoyhing cuz she keeps complaining about beingg broke while spending 30$ a week just to take a train to see him, i finally snapped and told her shes clearly dating down right? !. if he has a career and know she lives in a tiny room and can barely afford the food why is he not offering himself to help? or at least make it easier for her? she suddenly got super defensive and sai di dont understand their mentality..
YTA
This is judgemental. You don’t know their relationship or his income or circumstances or what he is/isn’t doing for her. Friends are supposed to be able to vent within reason about stressors, you’re supposed to empathise rather than just blame her and denigrate her boyfriend.
Wait…. She’s not earning at all but dating someone with a job is dating down?
YTA. A classist one at that. Borderline sexist too
Sounds like he is the one dating down…