I’m going to try and keep this as short as possible, but there is some needed background info. My husband (35 M) has some medical issues that limit how much he can physically do for work. He is currently on leave from his work until May 1st (super long story and we’re in the middle of a lawsuit) and he’s getting about $900/month in benefits. I (32 F) have a stressful (but not physical) full time job, go to the gym regularly, take care of the house/groceries/etc (my choice) during the week. I have had several traumatic experiences over the past year or so (medical and otherwise) and I’ve been exceptionally tired most days, but I still do these things.
Tonight he mentioned that he wants us to start working on the weekends together (DoorDash, Instacart, etc) to make some extra money to go on vacation in a couple of months. I told him that I was too exhausted from everything to feel up to that right now, but that he was welcome to do that during the week while I was at work. I told him that I didn’t want to give up my weekends (until this year I was working 7 days a week) and would rather spend time with him (not working) while we can. He said that he didn’t want to do it alone.
He said I’m the reason we can never go on vacation. Was I an asshole for telling him that now is not the time (for financial reasons and because I’m not up for it)?