Hi everyone, i really need your input and or help on my situation. I recently had an accident with my phone where it seems there was a short circuit after accidentally dropping my phone in water. Now its not working and i expressed how annoyed i was and would suggest to om to take it to someone who knows who can repair phones. My younger sister whenever we want to do something monetarily speaking,she always warns me not to ask for ”too much” which i get it and all…..but isn’t it my mom’s job to take care of us? I might sound like i am spoiled and call me out if i am but that daily question from my sister triggered me and i just sternly said that i won’t ask for anything anymore and just wait to move out since i am saving money to buy myself stuff. so do y’all think i am wrong cause now it seems i am spoiled for not caring and i am emotional cause the mistake is my fault and i am to blame ……….i have bipolar so pls be gentle with the comments , i just wanna know if i am doing things right i wanna move out soon and do what i want when i want, with the money i will save up and that is why i hate living with ,my family, as of right now, any advice and corrections are needed thank you.
If you’re saving up, why not pay to fix your own phone? YTA. Living on your own means having to take responsibility for your own things. If you can’t afford rent AND repairing your phone AND groceries AND whatever else you need, then it might not be the best time to move out. Maybe take care of yourself without the weight of rent first?
I WOULD ask your mom about her finances and see if she can help you understand her limitations and what living costs are.
YTA and you will figure out why when you move out and have to take care of all your expenses yourself.
Yes, you sound spoiled, entitled and clueless. Your parents owe you a roof over your head, food, clothes to keep you warm and stuff to help educate you and keep you healthy until you are of age when you can get those things for yourself. They need to cover all your cost and all the cost of housing, taxes, food, clothes, medical cost, … everything else is a luxury you are not entitled to. Depending on the level of income they have what they can afford varies. Sometimes all the parents can realistically do is pay the bills, put food on the table and buy some clothes and school supplies before money runs out. Asking for more stuff all the time puts pressure on them and makes them feel bad about what they can’t afford.
Solve your own problem: take the money you saved up and get your phone fixed – it’s your responsibility anyway that it’s not working. You’ll find that out quickly anyway when you move out and have to pay rent, medication, food and anything that breaks in your apartment.
I looked at your post history and it seems you are 18 years old. It’s not your mom’s job to take care of you. YTA.
YTA . Moving out costs way more than a phone
… and you’d be paying for the phone anyway.
You are not entitled to the phone, your mom does pay to take care of you and no a phone isn’t included in that. It’s not a necessity. You do sound spoiled and completely clueless about just how expensive it is to live on your own. The cost of living is EXPENSIVE.
Pay for your own phone, what’s the problem?? You can afford it anyway right? You broke it, it’s your responsibility, not your mom’s.
See if there’s a shop close by called “You Break I Fix”. They can do wonders.
Honestly your parents doesn’t owe you anything. But since you have a roof over your head, food in your belly, clothes, even phone. It means they love you and wanna take care of you as much as they can afford. What your sister is saying is that the money is tight and you should be careful what you ask for and not to expect everything to be fixed immediately. If you really think the life is gonna be easier when you move out and start living for yourself…well lets just say you gonna find out that part on your own. What i would suggest is to take the money you saved up, get a job or do something to earn the money so you can fix it yourself even tho i would not recommend to fix a water damaged phone.
Kid, taking care of someone is roof under your head, clothing, food and books for school. Anything else is extra if the person in question can afford it. If your sister tells you to be moderate, it’s probably because she’s more aware of your mom’s struggles. No one should ever try to live above their means, it is the best way to homelessness and then it is hard to get out back to normal life.
Then try to understand your living situation more, how much daily expenses are, rent, utilities etc. And how much income is. Then analyze how your financial situation truly is. If you think about moving out one day (hopefully when you finish school and get a job, no amount saving is enough for long), this is the absolutely minimum.
In your place, I would ask mom if she can afford repair. If not, I’m afraid you need to earn money yourself to replace it as the person who damaged it by accident is you. Don’t throw tantrum or get angry or emotional. If you want to be adult, you need to start behaving like one aka replacing stuff you broke yourself.
Life is not easy, I hope you will manage. And don’t say disrespectful things like ‘she has to take care of us’ while pointing to non-essential like a phone. No law or moral obligation demands a parent to buy expensive tools or repair one child broke. It is a will and desire of a parent to provide the best for their child. If your mom can’t, respect what you have and try to be more understanding.
When I wanted a phone as a teen or computer, I paid partly and my parents paid the rest to make it easier to me. They couldn’t afford to buy me and my sister at the same time, even in 1 to 2 proportion, so they have done the same next year when they could and until they we played on mine. They couldn’t afford to buy me one on their own as even this strained the household. This is life.
Let me start by saying two things to stop you in your tracks before you bring out these as justifications for your way of thinking or your entitlement:
1- You being bipolar is irrelevant – It doesn’t excuse you from accountability for your actions and mistakes.
2 – Whether you have a good or bad Mother is irrelevant. It doesn’t entitle you to her money. And it doesn’t excuse you from accountability for your actions and mistakes.
The phone is your property and YOUR responsibility. It having fallen on water is an unfortunate accident. It shortcutting, is not. It means you have plugged it in before it was fully dry. Maybe you didn’t know any better and you just assumed it was ok because it was still working. It’s toasted now. There is no fixing it.That is YOUR costly mistake. It is not your Mother’s financial responsibility to fix YOUR mistake. It is not your Mother’s financial responsibility to replace it – she didn’t toasted it, you did!!
Why is your sister asking you not to request an expensive item? How much was the phone originally? Do you even know? How long have you had it for? If you need a phone to make calls, receive texts, then any cheap thing will do. Your mother doesn’t need to put herself on financial burden due to YOUR mistake to get you a brand new, top specks, end of the line phone.
As someone else said if you can’t afford to spare money on new phone, than you can’t afford rent and you can’t afford to live by yourself. You seem to be talking big about leaving and leaving on your own and doing things when you want, but what exactly are you doing to make this a reality, since you’re banking on your mother to get you a new phone, as if it was a first necessary good like food or clothing??
You have a LOT of growing up to do, kid, if you’re hoping to become a functional adult. Because right now, your little sister has a better grasp on the financial realities of being an adult than you have….
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You broke it, you fix it. How does your carelessness become your mind responsibility.
Even your younger sister thinks you demand to much from your mom.
Getting you a new phone y’all can’t afford after you broke yours isn’t “taking care of you.” This might sound crazy, but making sure you’re fed and clothed comes first.
YTA, and you sound like an entitled asshole, too.
Your post history is a mess. It appears as though you graduated high school a while ago, by a couple of years even! 9 days ago you claimed to be making your first Reddit post asking if you were being neglected by your mother, yet you’ve got 4 posts older than that.
The answer is YTA and NO you’re not being neglected. You’re an adult still living at home for some reason and EXPECTING your mom to continue to financially and emotionally support you! The fact that your YOUNGER sister is having to remind you that your mom isn’t made of money proves that you too often demand money from your mom. You don’t have a right to be triggered by this warning!!!! The repeated warning is a consequence of YOUR OWN behavior and is clearly not unwarranted. If you don’t want to hear it, stop demanding your mom take care of you as if you’re a child.
Your and adult and it’s time to start acting like it. It is NOT your mom’s job to take care of you anymore. It’s YOUR job to learn how to take care of yourself and be thankful and grateful to your mom for still providing what she can for you despite you being an adult.
Regardless of the accident, you still broke your phone. You could ASK POLITELY if your mom was capable of helping you get it fixed. But if you have money saved, why aren’t you taking accountability and responsibility and figuring out how to adult in this situation? Or you could find out how much it will cost to repair or replace and if it’s more than you have then ask if she can HELP cover the cost. If you cannot afford to fix or replace your own phone, how will you afford moving out?
You need a job. You need to start being responsible for yourself.
YTA.
You broke your phone. So now you don’t have a working phone. That sounds like your problem. What have you proposed to solve that problem? I’m quite sure that you can pick up some old phone from somebody around you for a very low price or even for free that will get you through for a year or so? Or you can get a new really cheap phone like a motorola E15? Or indeed, you might get your phone repaired, if that’s an option.
Once you’ve figured out the cheapest option, you can check if you can cover it from your savings. Your phone, your mistake, so the cost is for you. If you can’t cover it, you might need to turn to your parents. Explain the situation, explain what you need, and ask if you can work it out together. They could lend you the money, or if they’re generous, even pay for it.
But right now, you do sound entitled. You start from the wrong side, and assume that it’s somehow their problem.