Hey guys so I asked my gym crush for his number after building up the courage and we exchanged numbers and that was Monday and today is Thursday and he doesn’t text me during the like literally at all. But he asked to hangout (during the weekend) on like Tuesday. He was very flirty and everything at first but now only responds like once a day but comes up to me at the gym and talks to me for a little while, should I cancel the date? Like can yall tell me if that mean he’s not interested (im a woman, idk why it says im a man but yeah)
I know one method which will solve your problem but shh keep it a secret. It’s called..
Just fucking ask him.
Lmaooooooo I’m scared
Welp. Stay in limbo and let this die out.
Maybe he saw your post and saw that it says your a man 🤷♀️
A lot of dudes, myself included, hate texting.
No, sorry, that’s not strong enough language. We fucking hate fucking texting and the fucking social obligations that go with it. We fucking hate being expected to respond within an influencer attitude length of fucking time. We fucking hate the existential angst that goes with the social obligation that you can’t double fucking text. We hate staring at fucking screens, watch those three fucking dots as you come up with just the right fucking wording for what could be a fucking one word response.
If you want to fucking talk to someone, use your fucking words in person or over the phone. Little known fact – the first phone didn’t even include texting options, and you had to talk to the other person.
I’m not sure if I’ve included enough swears to adequately convey my feel of text message chit chat.
lol no I got it
Sweet Jesus,
I smiled from ear to ear while reading that, and i can’t argue with a single word. Well said, young man… well said, indeed… I concur just about as much as one person can concur with another before it starts gettin’ weird 😂😂😂😅
My belief is that the dating app litmus test of interest (ie, frequency and quality of messaging) has bled over into the “real world”.
If someone made plans with you, they are interested. They don’t need to chatter via text to reinforce this. That hang out/date is the opportunity to actually get to know each other from this point forward, and interest / chatter afterwards is far more important.
You want people to have their own lives and interests am not just be waiting for the next text cycle to feel good about themself. Nothing wrong with people who are, but those that aren’t may not need it and that’s fine.
I like this take
He comes up to you and talks and flirts. What difference does it make whether he does it by text or in person??
You may not be aware of this, but men think that they have some kind of secret game in terms of having a relationship. Part of it is something like don’t respond for three days or something along those lines. Don’t make it look like you were interested because you might look desperate or something along those lines. As other people have suggested why don’t you just go up and ask him. He asked you out – why don’t you just accept and go out and see if the future is possible?
Its not even Saturday yet. Some dudes just don’t like texting and would rather get to know you in person, you know, like the old days.
Do the date and then decide
Probably very busy at work, most of the time I dont have time to check my phone at work. Go on the date and don’t read too much into it