Me(M25) and my girlfriend(F23)are very happy right now. I love telling i love her every 5 minutes when we are together, and how she greets me every single morning for an entire year, making me wake up happy and with a feeling i am not alone.
However, i sometimes ask myself if i am doing the right thing in our relationship dynamics. I am satisfied, but i love her enough to search for potential risks in my/her behaviour.
For example, i dont care about this internet stuff. I dont want to be "the prince who pays for all the girlfriend’s food when we go out". If she has money, she pays her half, and thats it, no problems and we will love each other anyway. If she doesnt have money, but we want to hang out, then sure, i can pay for her, i dont mind and if roles were reversed we dont mind either.
Speaking of which, i ALWAYS make sure to discuss with her about rules appliable to both of us. For example, i dont want her to feel forced to do "copulation time with me" even if she agreed 5 minutes ago and she changed her mind midway. A no is a no, and this applies to me as well.
I am not the guy who always protects her. I would rather to not need her to be protected because she would be good enough by herself. After all, what i want is a relationship were the two of us fight together, but none of us are dependent on the other one.
Its not about one being a defenseless healer and the other being the berserker, is about the warrior and the paladin fighting together in all problems in life.
So if i get sick, i dont want the house to lose all its functionality just because "the man should be the one handling all paper work". If i am sick, i want my girlfriend to be strong enough to handle things in my end, just as i would do for her. I dont either want her to get out of bed, with fever, and doing me food because i am too stupid to cook on my own, the same applies to her.
I don’t want a pet who i always take care and cannot refuse help, and neither a mother who takes care of me every single day. I want a woman who can carry me just like how i cary her.
Why is that a problem? because every fucking single day i see a discussion about "a man has obligation to do x?" and many people discussing about gender roles and bullshit like that. No, fuck those internet rumors, i dont want to demand my girlfriend to wash the dishes for me and i dont want her to demand me to fix her car.
Respecting our "no"s is mandatory for me, and neither of us should make the other feel the asshole for saying it. I also dont want to repeat internet stereotypes like "boys have to behave well in front of their womans". Bro, i fart in front of her, she does as well, and we laugh it off. She sees a hot actor in a show, shows me, and i either agree or joke about her taste, and i do the same. She can hang with her male friends, and i hang with female friends, because we both trust each other (she is too precious for me to cheat, and nobody makes me feel as good as her)