I 22M have a g f 20F. We’ve been together for a year. I love her but I find some parts of her weird. Like she hasn’t had a friend since she was 14. I was her first b f and who she lost her v card to (she was 19 at the time so quite old).
Yesterday she told me she’s never been clubbing and me and her should go. I asked her why she’s never been clubbing aren’t we a bit old now. She said because she doesn’t have friends to go with.
Because I’ve always found it weird I asked her why she doesn’t have friends she said because it’s not really easy to make them now she’s not in school. And when she was in school she got bullied a lot. I told her I’ve met a lot of people who got bullied but all of them had at least one friend. I asked her if she’s never had a friend ever. She said the last friend she had was when she was 14 but her friend died and after that she was depressed and didn’t put herself out there. And she already was anxious around people because of the bullying.
That was really sad but I still said I don’t understand how after so many years though she hasn’t made one friend. She started crying and saying she doesn’t know. I asked if people don’t like her. She said she guesses not. I asked her if there’s a reason not like has she done something to make no one want to be around her. And she just said she doesn’t know again and asked why I’m “interrogating” her. I told her it’s just weird that not even one person in the whole world wanted to be her friend. Is there something bad about her I’m missing?
She said no she’s just not a very charismatic person. And stormed out saying forget about the club. I’ve tried talking to her but she’s not responding.
I just find it so weird maybe she’s done something wrong? Or she’s actually not a nice person? Because surely someone would want to be her friend right?
19 is “quite old??” Your whole post reeks of judgement leave this poor girl alone. YTA
YTA. Who talks to their partner like that?
YTA. Why does it matter whether she has friends or not? You basically interrogated her for no damn reason. Maybe she doesn’t have friends because she’s introverted and struggles with making them- not because she’s a bad person or done something wrong, but because she struggles to get the courage to talk to people. There are a multitude of reasons and none of the correct responses to finding out she struggles to make friends is to interrogate her to the point she gets upset by it.
YTA Break up with this girl so she can find someone who actually likes her
YTA, it’s actually kinda hard to make friends once you fuck it up in highschool. Also jeez, asking why no one likes her? That’s very harsh. Also the v card comment, do you even like this girl? Do you experience empathy?
YTA. Wow.
Woooow.
Yeah. YTA. You didn’t “just ask”, you basically cross examined your own girlfriend about why no one likes her after she told you she was bullied lost her only friend to death at 14.
YTA wow holy shit. Instead of trying to understand how she might feel isolated because of her past experiences and encouraging her to make friends, you full blown interrogated her and made her feel awful about her lack of friendships?
So she was bullied, then her only friend died, she got depressed.
All of which make it hard to even want to try to make friends with people.
She finally thought she found one person who was nice to her (you).
But then he bullied her for… being bullied.
Yeah, this relationship is very likely over. Because YTA.
YTA, you made her feel like she was defective, and you bullied her over it.
YTA. And you’re mean. That poor girl finally has the courage to open herself up to a relationship and ends up with an asshole like you.
YTA. youre so mean
YTA You have a narrow way of seeing the world and have the emotional intelligence of a cabbage.
YTA. Losing virginity at 19 isnt quite old. Some teenagers aren’t promiscuous and want to wait for someone special. Unfortunately your gf chose the wrong guy. Also, some people have social anxiety and aren’t outgoing.
Your gf told you she was bullied and you just couldn’t let up.