I (20) have been sharing a college apartment with a friend of a friend (19) for a couple months now and recently a problem has arised where they will not stop taking my food. It doesn’t matter what it is, they will take it. They’ve taken my meal prep, they’ve taken ingredients, they’ve even drank all my protein shakes.
I keep telling them to stop, I’ve even tried buying a mini fridge but they will just go into my room. They say that it’s not fair because they don’t have a scholarship like I do and their parents don’t send them very much money for groceries. They have a meal plan but for some reason are still insistent that they are starving.
I go to the gym and i’m very health conscious so I like to meal prep for the week but they keep taking it and throwing off my meal plan.
We got in a blow up argument about it this week and they made a comment about how I make so much food there’s no reason why I can’t share some of it and this is where I might be the asshole, I told them that maybe they should worry less about eating and worry more about hitting the gym. For context, they are overweight and I know they are insecure about it but I was just so fed up with all my food being stolen. I don’t make a lot at my part time job so I can’t keep affording to buy two sets of groceries. AITA?
Put a lock on your fridge, and set up a camera, and then report them for thievery.
NTA get a lock for your room or your fridge, they don’t have a right to your food just because your expenses are different. But perhaps be a bit sensitive with your words since they could have an ED
seems like a bit of a under reaction to me, openly taking food over and over again is crazy
NTA
Your friend is a mooch.. Simple as that. They are not entitled to other’s food just because you’re in a better situation.
Tell them you are not their mommy/daddy and not taking care of their grown ass. Tell them you’ll report the theft in they don’t stop. Cause that’s what this is, theft. You are not their caretaker. Your job is to go to school, learn and experience college. You’re not there to make anyone’s life there “fair” that’s some weird thing to say to a ROOMMATE lmao
If this is happening in campus housing (which I assume it is since you are on scholarship), you need to take it to your RA or housing authority. Is not okay that they are taking your food, but it’s especially not okay that they are accessing your PRIVATE room without your permission. The university may very well deem this as breaking and entering. If they are breaking into your PRIVATE room and the university doesn’t want to handle it, I would threaten to go to the cops for breaking and entering. Ask the university for an immediate new roommate assignment.
Start locking you door
Get a lock for your bedroom door and just in case lock the fridge too. They have a meal plan tell them they’re wasting it by not using it.
You should start sending them a bill for everythjng they take/eat so they realize how much theft is gojng on. If it keeps up tell them you’re filing a police report for theft to have it on record, maybe that’ll get them to stop.
Also, you mention your roommate is a friend of a friend. Did you ask your friend what is up with their friend aka your roomie? I’d let them know so that they don’t recommend them as a roommate to anyone else they know.
Also, if this is a lease through school, can you complain to he housing dept? I assume it is because there’s a meal plan involved, perhaps ask to be transferred to a different room due to repeated theft by your room mate.
Your roommate is stealing from you. Your roommate is the problem. You are not the problem.
The roommate has an odd sense of justice. You have a scholarship and the roommate does not so the roommate is Robin Hood and makes things fair and steals from you to make things fair.
No. No.
Your comment about the roommate’s weight and physical activity is mean even when you spoke out of frustration.
A dedicated mooch will always be the first one to complain about “fairness” and the value of sharing while they have their hand in your pocket. Get ’em out. Obviously, NTA.
NTA
They keep stealing from you and they won’t stop. This is worth having a screaming argument into the morning hours about. This is worth calling the cops over. Your roommate is a nightmare, and you need to speak to the administration to get them taken out of your room.
Honestly, with how much they’ve been stealing from you and gaslighting you into thinking you’re the problem…. your comment was totally real af and I get you. Everyone else telling you to be gentle hasn’t been having their living partner steal from them for months and months.
There are portable locks you can buy to put on refrigerators. I got some at Amazon. And, there is locking door knobs you could put on your bedroom door. But, if you can report the thief and get him out of your room would be the best solution.
NTA
Tell him it doesn’t matter what your finances are or what his finances are: stealing is stealing.
And buy a lock for your door.