Musician here. I ordered a piece of gear last Fall that I was supposed to receive in a month (company is European). Gabe some grace to the company because of tariffs and geopolitical issues but their communication also sucks so it’s been a back and forth for months. Been pretty annoyed about it for a while because I sold a bunch of gear to get this piece and dropped about a grand on it. Anyways, went to a get together with friends and I ended up bringing it up with another musician friend there. Other buddies new girlfriend called me out for being selfish and talking about how we should be worried more about Iran and WW3 and not gear. I said that they don’t have anything to do with each other, I ordered this months ago and my order doesn’t mean I’m not concerned about the state of the world like everyone else. She said it was still selfish to bring it up now and that spending 1000 in gear was inherently selfish. We had it out a she left in a funk. Honestly feel like she was taking stress out on me which I get in these times but it felt unfair to target me.
NTA. It’s not mentally healthy to frame everything in the context of horrors you are not directly involved in. And living in a perpetual state of fear about ww3 won’t change the risk of it happening. Take action and then also take breaks.
Also you’re a musician. This is like someone who relies on a car for their work buying a decent car, or a plumber buying quality tools
NTA. You’re supporting global economy one purchase at a time. Now if you bring it up every single time and that’s all you talk about, then yeah AH. Concern for state of the world is not mutually exclusive to new gear.
NTA. It seems reddit is full of these stupid ‘selfish’ things these days, as if everything else in your life should stop for fear of someone else’s problems/feelings/etc. Live your life, be upset about your gear (I play guitar and hate waiting for stuff in general), people today just want to be butt hurt about anything and everything
I agree with you. We have become so conditioned to be offended when really things have nothing to do with us, even though they affect us. It takes practice to realize that.
NTA. She should know having a boyfriend is inherently selfish.
NTA. She is.
NTA but more importantly what is this girl’s deal?? If she cares so much she should enlist.
NTA.
People are in a weird state of mind right now. Depending on age, she could have been white knighting a cause, or she could be like many Millennials and tired of living through crisis after crisis. Either way, for her to lash out and call you careless or selfish for expressing frustration about something that is a legitimate issue for you is AH behavior.
I’d have a chat with your buddy and ask if she’s usually like this and how best to deal with this moving forward. My guess is that friend is going to see a lot less invites to hang out if this is how she behaves in public.
Nta-you don’t stop living cause it might be a big war, you live harder, just in case
Late shipment of an expensive product? That’s the sort of thing that anyone would complain about. It is none of this individual’s business what you spend your money on. NTA.
I dont get tarrifs thing. You pay tariffs not them. How that solves down the shipment?
NTA
Why is she hanging out with you all instead of doing charity work or traveling to Iran or Gaza to help children in need?
NTA. Why is she out socializing if she’s so worried about WWIII?