My friend recently invited me to go on a trip in June to celebrate her 21st birthday from the 19th-22nd. I looked at the calendar and saw that it would mean missing Father’s Day this year. I know I’m young and there will be other opportunities to celebrate this but I feel guilty for missing it. I’m not sure what to do and I might be overthinking it. Any advice is appreciated.
NTA Assuming you don’t have your own kids. Otherwise, you are.
Who is the father in this case?
Assuming you are also around 21, just plan a day to go out with your father. You are old enough to be able to organize a makeup day with him either before or after the trip.
INFO: This is so unclear. Is it your own celebration you’d be missing? Your dad’s? Your partner’s? Some workplace that needs you at your job on that day?
Only you can answer this. Nobody here knows your relationship with your father except you.
This is coming from someone who lost their dad so I do have a bias but i would only do it if you make plans either a few days earlier or later. Just something that shows you thought about it and didn’t want to not do anything, celebrate it in your own way
Father’s day was made up to sell cards. Go do what you want.
I can take my dad out on any day to enjoy time with him, whether hallmark tell me to or not!
For my perspective, and this is just in general, I don’t understand why Father’s Day has to be celebrated on that specific day. NTA, if I were in your position, I would call my Dad on Father’s Day, wish him well and ask if we could celebrate it on a day in the week we’re both available. Would that be a possibility?
Why don’t you just ask your dad before committing? If he’s really disappointed, say no. If he doesn’t care, say yes and then make sure you give him a call on the day while you’re away and plan something with him the weekend before or after instead.
I’m assuming you are talking about not seeing your father on Father’s Day. It really depends on your relationship with him, do you seen him often? Do you spend time with just you two? Would he be upset if you weren’t there?
If your friend is 21, I’m assuming you’re around the same age which means that you’re likely missing the celebration of your own father, correct?
If so, I personally don’t think it’s a big deal. I would just make sure your dad knows you’re going to be out of town ahead of time, and I would make plans to celebrate Father’s Day with him before/after your trip so he knows you’re thinking of him and still gets to be celebrated. NTA
As a father.. have fun and do your own thing
You need to talk to the father in question.
Because it depends.
Gonna be honest, as a father of four, Father’s Day means *literally* nothing to me.
Maybe we go out to dinner and I get to pick where.
Maybe I get some weird homemade gift that is fun or nice, but the only sentimental value comes from it being a Father’s Day gift.
Maybe I get a phone call from my oldest who doesn’t live at home.
I am an odd duck of a dad though. If I was your dad and you came to me with this, I would tell you to go with your friend, be safe, and have a good time. I would then have a fun argument with your mom, because this would somehow be a bigger deal to her than to me.
But you are missing a key detail. Are you the child of the dad, the spouse of the dad, or are you the dad?
The situation is different for each.
Tell your dad your dilemma and ask if he would mind celebrating Father’s day the weekend before.
I doubt he would mind. If you need to justify say Father’s Day is celebrated every year and a 21st just once.