It’s my first time posting, but this has just been eating at me. I actually have an examen later today, so I just wanted to get it out before that. And sorry, English is not my first language.
Alright, so I (f, 23) live further away from my parents currently. They attended a family get together, except I wasn’t there because of exam season.
I’ll also be going to Japan for an exchange year through my University soon. This is relevant, as one of my grandfather’s apparently gifted me 500€. I thought it was probably a bit of support for my exchange year.
But the way I learned about it was, that my parents had already split the money that was gifted to me between me and my brother (m, 20). So both of us would get 250€. And I am just upset as I saved up a lot for this exchange year, and I still could use any penny…
But it is also more about the fact that my parents just decided to do that without asking me (who this money was gifted to) first.
For a bit more context, my parents think my grandfather is being unfair, as he seemingly favours me and my cousin (also f, 23). While I don’t know about what my grandfather gifts my brother, even so, I believe it should be their responsibility to talk that out with my grandfather. Instead, they always rely on me.
And in my current situation, I am also kind of relying on my parents financially, so I feel like I cannot start a fight over this.
My mother kind of forced me to write to my grandfather that I decided to split the money on my own volition. I felt awful lying, but I did that.
My grandfather then told me that the money was only intended for me, and I should get it back. When I told that to my parents, they just waved it off, and said that I should just tell him that I would do that, like, get the money back.
But I know for sure my parents won’t give it back. They are set on splitting the money that was meant as a gift for me.
So yeah.. that really made me lose it yesterday and I had a good cry about it, and I still keep thinking about it…
So AITA?
Because I feel like even if my grandfather is treating me and my brother unfairly… this is still awful of my parents to do.
Gotta get back to late minute examen preparations now… thanks for reading 😀