I work in a factory and I have this one coworker who I consider a work friend, but not an actual friend.
I have told this coworker at least 5 times now since she started with our company, that it’s a bad idea to date other coworkers, because if it ends badly, she will have to see them every day anyways. She has been interested in at least 5 guys we work with, she’s worked here less than 5 months.
She didn’t listen to me, and has now dated and slept with two coworkers, and guess what- both “relationships” ended badly.
So now for the past four months, every single dang day at work I am stuck listening to her complain about these situations she’s put herself into. She complains about the recent guy ignoring her, complains about him paying attention to her, about seeing him around, about not seeing him around. She still complains about the previous guy still trying to talk to her, but refuses to block him on anything. And she’s STILL trying to get with other coworkers.
I am losing my mind. And no I can’t just walk away from the conversations. Our job requires us to stand in one position for 30 minutes at a time, continuously working, the most I can do to avoid her talking is just to straight up ignore her.
I came into work today late and with a wicked migraine. I walk up to the line and within SECONDS she’s already complaining about her seeing recent guy in the hallway laughing to someone (because \*obviously\* they were laughing AT her because nothing else in the world can be funny). I kind of slammed down the thing I was holding because I just couldn’t think of what to say or do to get her to just be quiet about it for 5 frigging minutes. She looked at me weird and I just ignored anything she tried to say to me that wasn’t directly work related.
I have talked to her calmly about it before, I’ve told her that I tried to warn her that she should not date coworkers, she didn’t listen, and that I now don’t want anything to do with the aftermath that she’s brought onto herself. But still she keeps going.
I don’t know how much longer my nerves can stay intact. I’m dealing with my own personal things that are causing my mood and general tolerance for people to go down real quick, and I don’t know how much longer it will be until I just snap.
So AITA for being this upset about her sharing her personal issues so often?
And WIBTA if I told her more firmly to stop talking to me about her personal guy problems? I don’t want to hear about them period.
No you’re not!
NTA
This is why our company has a policy on this if you are dating they will make sure you are both in different departments to avoid conflict of interest
Nta, a lot of people make friends at work and talk about this stuff but a lot of people also don’t want to have personal conversations while at work and that’s ok, it’s also generally good advice to never date someone who you work with so you did your part in warning her about that.
You wnbta.
You have two options here.
1. Gently suggest she go see someone to talk about her issues. Say something like this seems to really be bothering you maybe you should go talk to someone qualified to give you advice. This might just backfire though.
2. Highly recommend just going to management or hr and just saying amount of complaining about her personal life she does is exhausting and affecting your ability to focus on your job. It has created an environment for you where you dread coming to work everyday because you know you are going to her involuntarily sound board again and you want it to stop.
NTA for having those feelings.
Also wnbta for restating again that you’re not interested in hearing her self made drama.
NTA
NTA Just tell her that she keeps bringing this drama on herself after going against your advice, and you do not want to hear about it anymore. Tell her that her idiotic behavior is stressing you out. Ask HR if they’ll move her because they’re more focused on personal issues than work.
NTA. This is definitely a situation that HR should know about.
Tell her point blank to stop talking about her relationships with coworkers, you do not want to hear her continuous, monotonous complaining.
If she keeps complaining then tell your boss. If that does not work report her directly to HR yourself.
NTA. if it is safe, and if your workplace allows it put ear bus in and listen to music while you work
NTA can you speak to a manager to get a swap?
She sounds pretty insufferable.
NTA
I would become the AH in this situation cause it would get you relief. Everytime she mentions these things, just say “told you so”
Should clear up in about a week when she starts ignoring you.