Back in 2005, I helped pay off the mortgage on my parents’ house in India. Because I was also financially supporting my parents and my brother’s education, the title was legally registered in my name.
For 17 years, everything was fine. In 2022, I proposed demolishing the old house to build a new one, with costs split 50/50 between my brother and me, and I offered to legally transfer 50% of the title to him then. My father shut this down aggressively, asking, "Who are you guys to split my asset?" I was deeply hurt, so I stopped the project. I eventually built my own home on the next street and moved my parents in as well. They collect rent from the old property (even though the title is still in my name) and use it for their expenses.
Now, in 2026, my parents are demanding I transfer the title of the their property to my brother immediately, offering only vague promises of my share that will get in future. I was expecting 50-50 split but now parents thinks my brother should take full property. Also I recently came to know they have been making side deals with my brother without consulting me. It seems they took money from my brother for "my share" and using it to buy another property in my mom’s name.
When I asked my father about this, I suggested we should handle this through a Will to ensure a fair split later, post your lives. They argued with me as they want the property to be transferred to my brother, so I exited the call angrily and agreed to transfer the property to end the drama. My brother also said that "nothing has changed" so far you had the property in your name and we both are supporting them , like that it is going to be on my name from now onwards and we will continue to support them for rest of the period.
Though it seems logical, AITA to feel like something wrong. By signing the title over now, I lose my leverage and have no guarantee that I’ll ever see my fair share of the family’s assets.
NTA. Something is definitely up… They’re demanding you basically sacrifice what you’ve put your money toward for a vague promise of something in the future. I wouldn’t trust it.
My brother texted me yesterday : “Again low BP for mom. Admitted in Hospital. Nothing to worry. She is alright now. Just admitted for 1 day to monitor the BP”. I kind of losing my mind now, not sure my mom is thinking that I will not transfer the property leading to health issue or I been force emotionally to take decision. I genuinely want to give my brother’s share now but these kind of situation making me to just give what they want and walk away without further talking about this.
They’re emotionally blackmailing you too.
Dumb yourself down for this. Visit your mom in the hospital and whenever she says she’s suffering and might not have long, hug her, emphatize etc. Do not act like you could have anything to do with her condition. They’ll have to be blunt and direct to make the accusation and then you’ll know what’s up
NTA. Don’t do it.
NTA. Your brother needs to buy you out of the house.
NTA. Don’t do it. If you’re going to do it, get a lawyer and have your brother buy you out. It’s not your parents’ property, it’s in your name so it’s yours no matter what your father says.
NTA. Don’t sign it over.
Your parents are trying to screw you while living with you. The audacity
Tell them you want to be reimbursed for the amount of the mortgage you paid before signing it over. NTA
NTA you paid off that property, how about you transfer it to him when he pays you back for that?
Your parents are really taking advantage of you.
NTA. Please and I mean please don’t sign it over. You will never get 50% of it back from your brother and after all the money you put into it your right to keep it in your name. Stay strong and don’t back down on this otherwise you will lose all the money you put into it. Best of luck.
Let me get this straight: your parents collect and keep the rent from your property, and also keep money that your brother is paying for ‘your share’ (whatever that is)?
Your parents are stealing from you. Even worse, they want you to hand over the ownership of an asset that you helped pay off without financial recompense.
Talk with a lawyer NOW about your options for securing your financial future. Your parents are trying to wear you down into agreeing with them – don’t let them. Be strong and consistent about what is fair and reasonable for you, and hold your ground. When your parents won’t fight for you, you have to be your own warrior.
NTA.
Sometimes family traditions should die. Especially when extortion and nd manipulation are used. Don’t do this.