me (22F) and best friend (F) always planned on her visiting guwahati, India where i am rn as it’s a good place and shi. So on last Friday we talked and made this impromptu plan that she’ll be coming to my place for a small trip in the name of bhutan, which she was supposed to confirm by Monday from her manager.
imp note: cause I’m studying I have an imp presentation along with some submissions in the same week when she will be coming, but then I was like I can get them done somehow. so we can go for a trip
then came monday, was busy the whole day, in wood workshop without any rest and food.
my friend suggested we have some beers, which then made me extremely sleepy and then woke up to gastric issues so had to take injections, after that had to visit my prof to for thesis and then more work. when I eventually returned home i was so tired still I called her to discuss the plans, but then we weren’t able to discuss properly, and I was like I’ll be back with more info about bhutan travel after asking some friends, by 5.00pm. but then I slept till 7.00pm.
her side: after getting confirmation on Monday she had to book flight tickets which were pretty costly so she was getting pissed, cause less time more costly tickets, but then when we were planning trip she send me this huge ass backhand explanation – " I’m asking again you have work and shi, so think properly we can make trip again, it’s okay and stuff"
I was so wierded out by that even when I explained whole time before that I’m totally fine it’s just that I was in the hospital and was tired etc. so to that I just said yeah let’s cancel this
but soon i realised in like 2 hrs and then got back to her to plaeseeee come to the trip, I would even pay 1 side flight ticket an all …
but then she was like " nahin"
NAH, just bad timing / communications
Copying a rewrite in easier to read english for those who need it:
>My best friend and I had always planned for her to visit me in Guwahati, India. Last Friday we made a spontaneous plan for her to come visit and do a short trip to Bhutan. She needed to confirm with her manager by Monday.
>Important context: I have a big presentation and some submissions due the same week she’d be visiting, but I figured I could manage both.
>Monday came and it was a disaster for me personally. I was stuck in a wood workshop all day without food or rest, then my friend suggested beers which made me fall asleep, then I woke up with stomach issues bad enough to need injections, then I had to visit my professor for thesis work. By the time I got home I was exhausted but still called her to plan. I told her I’d have Bhutan travel info by 5pm but ended up sleeping until 7.
>On her end, she’d gotten approval from her manager but was stressed because the longer we waited to book the flights the more expensive they got. Instead of saying that directly she sent me this long indirect message basically saying “you have a lot going on, we can reschedule, no pressure.”
>That confused me since I’d already told her I was fine with the trip, just tired from being sick. So I just said fine, let’s cancel.
>Two hours later I regretted it and begged her to come, even offering to pay for one of her flights. She said no.
Thank god you rewrote that. OPs post made absolutely no sense.
Gave it to Claude and asked to translate
Claude?
YTA, I think, OP. If your friend has to offer you the out to cancel, it’s pretty apparent that you aren’t really available for this trip like you thought. It sounds like you’re insanely busy and trying to do absolutely everything. You haven’t actually figured out how to finish your school commitments with regards to this trip, and it seems like you’re too busy between school and health to even plan it.
Cancelling is the right call. Trying to repeal that cancellation a couple of hours later is PRIME A-holery.
It’s not the cancelling that is the A-holery here. It’s the flipflopping and lack of connection for planning and communicating.
So you told her to let you know by Monday and the made yourself completely inaccessible? You list a bunch of things you chose to do instead of call her, not things that happened to you. You dropped the ball on communication. YTA.