So our university holds these esports tournaments alongside other sports during our festival weeks. My friend really loves to play in them as he’s pretty good at call of duty mobile and I heard that there might also be money involved if you win. So of course, my other 2 friends are also in as they want that cash. As for me, though I did feel a little more tempted, my schedule is simply far too full to do such things. We’re in 1st year second semester managing subs like physics, integral calculus and a bunch of other mathematics alongside coding. I also have 2 dungeons and dragons groups I prep and DM for each week, gym and drawing (I’m learning) to do. So I refused. They’ve been persistent on trying to get me to join in but I’ve been pretty steadfast on my decision to not join.
Last year on first sem we also joined a similar tournament though there was no price involved. I simply found it as something I was just pressured to join in as I don’t even enjoy the game anymore like I did years ago. So to me it just shows I’m a filler position so they can continue and it’s more of a waste of time for me. I just feel a little guilty since I feel like I’m ruining their chances since they keep saying they only need 1 more to fill in.
OP this might be removed also I don’t think your asking if your an asshole here or not
Oh no may I ask which part? Or what is wrong about it?
NTA. Your schedule is filled.
NTA. You are free to choose how to spend your time
It’s more like you’re just describing what happened and what you feel but I’m not sure what you actually want to know?…
Its pretty simple. Is he the asshole for not joining the tournament with his friends
NTA. Your schedule is too full to drop everything for a one-time tournament.
Prioritize your options. You could try making a pro’s and con’s list. Can you put a hold on learning to draw, an optional hobby, until the game is over? On the other hand, if you don’t enjoy it, why bother?
Can you integrate it into your coursework? If you are trying to learn/do two things at once, can you find a way to do them both together? Years ago, I was taking up computer classes and programmed an Apple lle computer to check my answers in a math class I was taking concurrently, rather than check them the old fashioned way. ‘Show your work’ in math was annoying AF to me. I’d sooner take a reduced grade if I could get the right answer in an easier way.