I 31F and my toddler 2M we were out and about with my mom. We went to one of those bargain stores where they sell alot of misc cheap things. My mom was in line to pay and my child let me know he had to pee, I asked if they had a restroom and they said no public restroom. Ok no problem I will just have him pee outside on a pillar in the corner. They were only liquor stores and smoke shops around and no one was around. I figured it should be fine well as my child was half way done peeing the owner comes out yelling at me saying I shouldn’t let him pee in front of the store, I was not in front of the store it was off to the side a few feet away, that I am disgusting of a person for doing that. Regardless I said he is just a child and couldn’t hold it what did she expect me to do, let him pee himself? She said not my problem and I told her not my fault or problem you don’t have a bathroom. My son simply refuses to wear a diaper and I don’t want to force a diaper on him, potty training a toddler is hard enough and I wouldn’t want to discourage him either. I’m not trying to sound entitled but I will understandably understand if I was an asshole. If he had pooped that would have been a different story and I would just bag up his clothes and changed him in the car. So AITA for having my son pee outside on a pillar that was a approx 10 ft from the entrance? I also made sure they weren’t any cameras or people around.
YTA. That isn’t potty training. Thats pee wherever training. Literally the opposite.
> If he had pooped that would have been a different story and I would just bag up his clothes and changed him in the car.
wtf??? How is this your plan??
>Ok no problem I will just have him pee outside on a pillar in the corner.
YTA. Public urination is generally illegal (in the US). It’s a public health issue, not to mention you’re teaching your child a pretty disgusting habit.
That said, this is (or used to be) a common practice in parts of China (having been there and witnessed it). Depends on where you’re from and where it happened but if you’re in the US, YTA.
YTA-No public restroom doesn’t mean it’s acceptable to have your child urinate on the store’s entrance pillar.
YTA. Take the kid around the corner of the building next time, don’t leave a puddle where people could step on it.
Yta. How are you even asking this?!
Yta: Of course urinating on a store is gross. It’s up to you if the kid wears a diaper or not you’re the parent. The kid is two.
YTA
YTA clearly.
YTA it’s illegal and gross to urinate on a building in public.
YTA I get that it’s hard potty training but peeing in a public area is not the way to teach him. I know you said he won’t wear a diaper but he should at least be in training underwear when out in public so that if he does have an accident it’s contained. I’m sure there are reusable ones of you don’t want disposable ones but this will not be the last time it happens so you need to be prepared for the next time. Have him pick out ones he likes and that may help with getting him on board with wearing them.
ETA they now make travel potties you can set up in the back of your car, that’s another good option that I wish I had when my twins were potty training.
>I also made sure they weren’t any cameras or people around
How clandestine of you.
>I don’t want to force a diaper on him, potty training a toddler is hard enough
Public urination isn’t potty training, it’s ingraining bad habits. When he eventually goes to preschool, he’ll be a behavioral nightmare for the teachers.
YTA
YTA. You bring a travel potty in the car. You cannot be “out and about” with a child that young with no way for them to go potty.
YTA
> I also made sure they weren’t any cameras or people around.
Clearly you did a poor job at this, as the owner saw your kid pissing on his store.
YTA, on the PILLAR? Ten feet from the entrance? You can’t even take him behind a building? Come on.