I (25F) has this older friend, let’s name her Jessie (32F). We are in the same pickleball club. One day, one of our other friend Melissa (28F) and other friend Remy (29F) had a misunderstanding. Both Melissa and Remy never told me the each of their sides, so I never came in between them and just stayed quiet. For me it’s not my battle to fight. One day Jessie came onto me and telling me that I should have picked her side (she is siding with Remy) because me and her are closer and she expects me to pick sides. I told her my reasoning where I wouldn’t pick any side because both parties never came onto me about their drama/side and Im not the type of person who would go to stick in anyones business. I told me that since she helped me a lot through the years I should’ve picked her side (since she is also fighting with Melissa). I told her that Im picking myself since all of this picking sides is making me stress and anxious and I chose to not engage with the issue I’m not involved with. In the end Jessie got mad at me and called me selfish for picking myself and apparently not “defending” her.
AITA for picking my mental health? What do you guys think?
I have no idea what you are writing about and cannot follow this post. I must say it does not read like a post by someone 25.
Anyone else?
NTA. The drama wasn’t really yours to be involved in, and staying neutral was honestly the best thing you could do since you didn’t even hear both sides. Just because someone helped you in the past doesn’t mean you have to automatically pick their side in every conflict. And at her big age of 32 acting like a middle schooler is crazy. You are smart for staying out of it!
NTA, actually the opposite. It’s good to not stick your nose into other people’s businesses
NTA. Friends that demand blind loyalty deserve it the least. You don’t even know what the beef was about, and she expects you to square off against another friend because she supported you in the past?
Did she pick your side in your friend group in a similar situation? Somehow I doubt it.
It’s always ok to pick your own peace. It’s not selfish to stay out of conflict that isn’t yours.
Nacho circus, nacho monkeys.