I have recently had probably the worst 3 consecutive days of my life. Won’t get into details but just non stop family issues, relationship problems, ohh and I was fired. I’m honestly right now in a state of severe depression where I have no energy to do anything or motivation.
Anyway. My gf basically said I get this weekend to wallow and then I have to go back to being productive. Which I have an interview for a new job on Monday so I feel I’m doing my best to live up to it.. But she’s not letting me veg out at all.
Im probably being an ass but I don’t want to even get out of bed right now. I’ve worked so hard for so long and things have still gone to shit (btw I have savings to support us for months so it’s not like I need to work immediately).
I know she’s trying to cheer me up but she’s constantly in my face and asking me to go places do things spend money especially at a time where I feel better saving money. I try telling her no but then she gets depressed and mad which makes me feel even worse but I know I need to get my head right and this isn’t helping.
Just don’t know what to do.
NTA
Ask her for time to veg out. Tell her you will get to the interview Monday but until then to give you space.
Tell her not doing so will ensure you blow the interview.
NTA . Losing your job and having family drama is rough, and forcing “cheer up activities” when you want a day to decompress just adds stress.
You have an interview Monday. Your good. Wallow . Tell her to fuck off
INFO: Have you told her that you want one chill weekend? It sounds like you’re trying to communicate your needs indirectly. She’s being up your butt so you need to make it very clear that you need to decompress.
You’re NTA for wanting to rest, it’s actually really helpful to take a bit of time for yourself to just disconnect from the demands of standard life. It’s so much easier to start the long haul of searching for a job if you give yourself that grace period. Depending on how much savings you have, you should do a week, IMO.
But again – you need to tell her if her behavior is bothering you. Also, I don’t want to add to your stress, but the thing you do need to do Monday is file for Unemployment. This job market sucks and is getting worse, and those months’ worth of savings will probably not be long enough for you to get a job unless you’re lucky. Also … why are your savings supporting both of you? Does she not work?
NTA. Tell her you need to be left alone. Tell her to go out without you. It’s okay to feel bad when things are bad. It’s not okay to demand you pretend you’re happy when you aren’t. Don’t take to your bed for too long it’ll make the depression worse.
Nta, take your break. But you have to communicate your needs, not just say no to her. You said she’s trying to cheer you up, so the intentions are good, help her help you by communicating.
Consider your overall compatability. She doesn’t sound particularly empathetic, and she also wants to spend and be active at a time when frugality makes total sense.
You need to consider what you both want and how you plan to get there longer term. Because at the moment it seems like you’re on different pages.