This summer, I am going on a short girls trip with my friends Annie and Laura for the weekend. I have done pretty much all of the planning for it. I booked our Airbnb, I chose what we are going to do, etc. Annie has made some contributions, like helping me out with what we should do when and how to get the most out of our weekend, but honestly it’s not much. Laura hasn’t done much and just goes with the flow.
Here’s where the dilemma is: Annie was apparently working on a fair way to split the cost of the Airbnb since we will all be arriving there at different times. She’s now telling me that not only should we split the cost by how many hours we’re going to be there, but the person who gets master bedroom should pay more for their room since the master will have a private bathroom and the other two rooms will have one bathroom down the hall for two people to share.
Personally I think that because I did all the planning and research I should get the master room and I shouldn’t have to pay extra because I honestly consider all the effort I put in to this trip as the “extra cost”. Annie says she wants the master room too and says she is willing to pay more for it or draw straws for it. But she doesn’t think it’s fair that I automatically get it just because I found the place.
WIBTA if I just take it and don’t give her a fair shot? If it really was a concern she should have brought this up before I booked the place. We’re only staying there for the weekend anyways so it’s just two nights.
1. Just taking it would ruin your trip and maybe your friendship. 2. Are we talking a difference of hours or days? That sounds crazy. Maybe y’all should get hotel rooms.
Splitting the cost BY THE HOUR what is her problem. Nta.
I mean it’s 2-3 nights. If she wants to pay more I’d let her cuz I’m cheap. I’d just remember this for next time. Seems a bit excessive to pay depending on how many hours ur there/which room u get but if im not the one paying more she can spend more for a room that all she’s going to do is sleep and shit in. I’d probably do the other room/bathroom anyways cuz if y’all are getting ready she’s going to end up getting ready alone while yall are girl timing it in the second bathroom lol
YWBTA
Your friends already told you what they feel about it, honestly you should have worked that out before booking. ‘How are we managing who gets what room?’ Drawing straws is fair, so is the master bedroom person paying more if they want to claim it. You floated the idea that you should ‘get’ it, they disagreed. If you want to push the matter, you may not have travel friends any more.
Make a fair decision this time, then next time, you’ll know not to go out of your way to be the planner as they don’t value it as much as you do.
However the paying according to hours there is obnoxious. You book it for the days you want it. There is no opportunity to book for a check in according to anything other than the host and their rules. The place can be checked in at 3…that’s when the clock is ticking. It’s completely unreasonable that just becuase ‘Annie’ can’t make it unitl 7pm that she pays less? No. I’ve travelled with many people and stayed in many airbnb’s, hotels, bnb’s, inns, etc and NEVER and with NO ONE have we split according to hours. it’s ridiculous.
Yeah paying by the hour doesn’t make sense when AirBnB usually charges by the night. I mean I get it if someone needs to get there earlier than usual check in/leave later than check out and they’re charging extra for that. But if someone decides to take a nap instead of going to get coffee with the group it’s gonna cost them another $10 or something? I don’t get it.
YTA (lightly).
Planning the trip doesn’t automatically entitle you to the best room. Organizing things is helpful and definitely appreciated, but it’s something people usually do voluntarily when planning group trips it’s not typically treated as a “fee” that gets you extra perks unless everyone agreed to that beforehand.
Annie’s suggestion actually sounds pretty reasonable. Splitting the Airbnb based on the quality of the room is extremely common, and offering to pay extra for the master or drawing straws are both fair ways to handle it. The fact that she’s trying to find a system that everyone agrees on is probably her way of avoiding tension during the trip.
From Laura’s perspective, she probably just wants the weekend to stay low drama. If one person claims the best room by default, it can create resentment before the trip even starts.
You did put in effort and that deserves appreciation, but the better move here would probably be to talk it out and agree on a fair system. If everyone ends up happy with the arrangement, the whole trip will go a lot smoother than if someone feels like they lost out before you even arrive.
The answer is hotel rooms
YTA. Did you tell your friends that you taking on the planning came with extra privileges? If not, you don’t get to decide unilaterally. Your friend proposed an equally viable option — you don’t get more of a say just because you did more planning. I would not want to go on another vacation with you if that’s how you behave.
YTA, you also did not discuss this in advance. As others said, “just taking it” would probably significantly damage your friendship. Figure out a way to settle this like adults. Like drawing straws.
ngl the planning argument doesnt really hold up here, like you booked an airbnb not performed surgery. annie has a point that the master bedroom is objectively better and if shes willing to pay more for it thats actually a fair solution instead of you just claiming it because you did the legwork, tbh that feels like youre trying to double dip on the benefits
YTA
It sounds like you planned based on what you wanted, not them, if Annie’s “let’s come up with a fair way to split rooms,” was met with “nope, I am just gonna take the big one.”
I’m wondering if you “planned” everything because it was easier for them to just agree along than try to discuss things with you.
You guys all seem like AHs because I can’t believe they’re thinking of splitting costs based on hours and I can’t believe you think it’s a viable option to just take the biggest room when your friends have made it clear they would not be cool with that. I mean how will you guys even begin to navigate all of the cost splitting and (gasp) treating each other that a weekend with friends entails? Sounds like it’s going to be a disaster. Next time, I’d pick people that have the same expectations as you.
If I were going on a weekend with my friends, I could care less who gets the biggest room. How much time are we spending on our rooms anyways? Just to sleep right? Because ostensibly this is about spending time together, not in our rooms. So you all sound like a bunch of AHs to me and it looks like you’ll get into a giant fight before you even get there.
“If it really was a concern she should have brought this up before I booked the place.”
If you expected the master suite as compensation for planning the trip, YOU should have brought it up before booking the place! If all rooms are not equal, there should have been a conversation re room assignments & clear agreement by all 3 of you ahead of time. You had no right to assume they would be ok with what you expected.
“WIBTA if I just take it and don’t give her a fair shot?”
Seriously? Of course YWBTA. That’s how you treat a friend?
Yes. You should have discussed a fair way to spit rooms prior to booking. Had you said from the beginning you are willing to do all of the planning but in return you get first pick of the room that would be fine. Then if they disagreed you could have all fairly shared the burden of planning. If you try to do this now they will most likely not be thrilled with you on this trip and then what’s the point of it?