Hi, I’m 15F and at the time I was 13F and for some context it’s my birthday which takes place in December. I was with my grandparents, mom, stepdad and baby brother. We went out to dinner at Gold Corral, now don’t get me wrong I used to love this place as a kid but now I hate it. Not because of the food but because of the environment, people are crowding everywhere and some push or block you. This create an anxious environment for me, so the entire time I blasted music in my headphones and kept quiet and I cried out of stress and had a small panic attack. Or something that felt that way, but my family was mad at me for crying and I don’t understand why? They didn’t even ask if I wanted to go there, honestly I wanted rigatoni at home with my family more than anything. I also requested no cake because I wanted to have a peaceful non attention birthday and a nice dinner and maybe some cool trinkets. Anyways byeeee!
NTA
NTA
1. They should’ve asked you.
2. You should’ve told right then and there how you feel and asked them to maybe go elsewhere.
3. I hope you talked it out at least afterwards and you told them what you told us.
4. You both communicated 0 and assumed the other one knows what you think.
No one is the AH it’s a communication problem.
Parents know their child likes something and the automatically think it stays like that forever and they can take their teenager to the same place they as a child loved 5 years ago.
They wanted to make you happy but they must realize you are a person of your own and they can not decide what should make you happy. So if they are not sure they have to ask. If they don’t and give you something you don’t like you have to tell them for the sake of future gifts.
NTA.. but it’s been 2 years. You need to let it go.
‘As a kid’
Babe you are still very much a kid lmfao.
This feels remarkably one sided and like a lot of information has been left out. It is, however, pretty rude of you to put headphones in at a family event, especially one meant to celebrate you. I get not liking the environment but unless you are diagnosed autistic or similar, you just gotta deal with stuff you don’t like sometimes.
I’m gonna say NAH because we don’t know all the details but you’re just a child.
You need to forget what happened two years ago. You also need to learn to start using your voice and communicate with your parents. Learning how to speak up now will go a long way towards helping when you become an adult. Communication is learned as please start now.