me: yo
brother: What
me: could you stop at a corner store for me on your way home. i need regular cheetos and hot cheetos
brother: Need?
me: yes. am craving them so hard
brother: I’m hungry
me: mom has dinner for you
brother: i know
me: pls 🥺. i literally drove your passport to *a town an hour away* for you after work at like 0100
brother: Venmo me.
me: ight just let me know how much. tysm
brother: Only because of your breakdown this morning
me: i appreciate it
brother: Dude
me: what’s good
brother: What’s all over the shower curtain
me: hair dye. it’ll wash out
bother: You’re about to lose bathroom privileges. In 3 months when you get to it. Just like the hair on the fucking wall
me: you’re so dramatic
brother: You’re disgusting
me: okay ouch that was mean
brother: You think I wanna hop in the shower and look at your stains and shit everywhere
me: then go back to *name of his girlfriend*. have you ever noticed that i would literally do anything for you but you still treat me like shit?
brother: Im asking you to respect a shared space that is supposed to be where you clean yourself. That’s not treating you like shit. Making a mess to where it look like you have explosive diarrhea and wiped your ass with the curtain and just leaving it there is
me: next time you need a ride, food, a passport, etc you can ask somebody else
brother: And I’m dramatic. I don’t want to shower in your filth. That’s not a hard ask
me: and i don’t want to be called disgusting
brother: You’re not physically disgusting, the shower is
me: riiight
bother: Why do I have to shower in that. Explain that to me
me: it’s literally harmless hair dye
brother: It’s disturbing. It’s not personal, it’s a bathroom
me: calling me disgusting is absolutely personal
bother: And the hair thing is something I’ve brought up since I was like 12. Ignoring me for 11 years is also personal. Obviously there is no respect there either
me: literally every girl does that. it’s the female experience
YTA
And: “disgusting” is correct.
YTA. It’s a shared space, leave it as you found it. Being “female” does not mean you’re incapable of cleaning up a mess you created.
YTA I’ve dyed my hair plenty and I never just leave dye all over the shower. What’s stopping you from washing it off? And leaving your hair all around a shower that you share IS disgusting
YTA-Clean up after yourself FFS.
YTA – Just because you do nice things sometimes doesn’t mean you don’t need to clean up after yourself, especially in a shared space like a bathroom.
Hair dye stains things permanently and no one wants to get it on themselves and it does look nasty. It only takes a couple of minutes to clean it up. Removing your hairs would take even less time.
YTA. Clean up your messes.
>literally every girl does that.
No. I don’t leave my hair everywhere and I do clean up after myself.
YTA.
YTA and you’re being unreasonable holding actions you chose to do as some sort of excuse when your brother reasonably calls you out on something that bothers him and he shouldnt have to deal with.
You can decide not to drive a long distance if it doesnt work for you. You can choose to do or not do favours for each other but you are not entitled to people going out of their way for you – its just nice to do.
Re. The bathroom: You share the space, you are both responsible for keeping it clean so imo while hair dye drips can happen, I’ve been dying my hair for 20 years and have never made a mess that I havent immediately cleaned up to avoid it staining. Not doing so IS disrespectful of the fact the space isnt just yours.
YTA. Also, Jesus, you sound exhausting.
YTA – That is indeed disgusting. Clean up your mess after you make it. Also pretty manipulative to bring up past non related things.
Rephrase:
Brother: Clean up your mess.
You: non arguments.
Brother: Next time directly, or I take the bathroom privilege.
You: Crybaby, hissyfit.
YTA.
Yta don’t leave a mess in a shared bathroom. If you do the least clean up after yourself.
I would be surprised if anyone sides with you on this… how do you not see this as a concern leaving a bathroom in that state?
Clean the damn bathroom. You made the mess. Your brother is right. It’s disgusting everyone else needs to shower in your mess becauae yiu don’t care.
“me: literally every girl does that. it’s the female experience” Bullshit
You share a house. Clean your damn mess.
YTA