Not a particularly long story, but my dad (M49) wants me (F20) to bring my sister (F18) out with my friends more often. My sister is autistic and has struggled with socialising and making friends, to which I sympathise with. I still live at home (don’t have the money to move out and my sister isn’t emotionally and financially able to support herself). My dad tonight brought up that I should bring her out with me so that she gets outside the house more often, and I honestly just clammed up. I love my sister, but I would not say we’re close. I spent a lot of my childhood looking after her, being with her and missing out on making friends so that she wouldn’t be lonely or left out. If I couldn’t bring her to a park after school? I couldn’t go. A sleepover I was invited to and she wasn’t? Not happening. It just felt like my childhood all over again.
I suppose my hesitation was written all over my face because my dad just told me to forget about it, that I’m selfish and that he’s disappointed that I don’t care enough about her. It’s not even that I don’t want her there, it’s just that we have nothing in common. I don’t drink heavily, she’ll get plastered at any given moment. She doesn’t like the restaurants my friends and I do. Besides video games, we do nothing together really.
I don’t want my sister to be lonely or upset, but I don’t want to be the one responsible for her happiness and social life if she doesn’t make the effort either. AITA?