For context, I am 17 years old and my gf is 17 too.
The nickname is basically my name spelled with one extra letter (for purposes of anonymity, let’s say my name is Michael. The nickname said by the female friend would be like **Micihael**). It’s basically something a LOT of people have misspelled my name as, and I’ve laughed in good nature at all of the failed attempts to spell my name as my name shows up somewhat frequently.
This other female friend is a fellow officer in the club I’m in, and it is a club that helps Nepali families in poverty. She ironically calls me nicknames like the aforementioned purposely misspelled name and "croseph crostar" (a ironic spelling of an anime character 😭). I absolutely have no romantic interest in her nor have I ever done anything remotely inappropriate, and I believe she likes calling ppl ironic nicknames and she definitely does not do it in a romantic way. She also knows I have a gf, as i put my gf’s tag in my insta bio.
But my gf disagrees heavily and says that it’s inappropriate. I’ve been transparent about my relation to her and emphasized there is nothing romantic obviously. She says she doesn’t care abt the FF saying that, after doing a sigh, but I know she does deep down, as she brings it up somewhat frequently.
What do yall think?
NTA, but if it really bothers your gf you could ask your friend to not say those nicknames in her presence. But you don’t have to.
agree. if she doesn’t trust you enough then thats a problem.
NTA your friends don’t have to stop using your nicknames just because you get into a relationship.
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It’s too bad that your girlfriend doesn’t like the nickname “croseph crostar” because that’s funny as fuck.
NTA, but close to NAH, you’re all fairly younger and still learning how to manage your emotions and jealously properly, as you both mature and change hopefully she learns how stop being jealous over trivial things.
Sorry, I should’ve elaborated 😭, She doesn’t explicitly know that she calls me croseph crostar, just the misspelled name part, cuz I never bothered to tell her. “Babe, I have a confession… I’m secretly a dude that’s chasing aztec pillar men” Still, I think it’s unreasonable, as both names are clearly ironic lol.
Yeah, i heard anyone under 21 is likely to be really jealous, but I believe i don’t really fit in that box. Like, I understand *why* they’re jealous, but I don’t agree with their rationale; it just seems awfully limiting for relationships and society in general.
NTA, but talk to your GF. Having a nickname (that you don’t disagree with) is absolutely fine.
NAH you’ve done nothing wrong and shouldn’t have to change this friendship for your GF, but your GF isn’t an AH she’s just young and struggling to handle her jealousy/insecurity. She needs to work on that really and the pair of you should continue to calmly communicate these issues so you can set healthy (not controlling) boundaries
NTA. Your gf better never come to Australia as everyone has a nickname here. It is not uncommon to call someone by a nickname who is just an acquaintance. For example, Sharon becomes Shazza, someone with the last name Jones would be Jonesy, someone with red hair would be called Blue or Bluey.
Haha, that’s quite charming! I’d always thought that kind of culture would be better as everyone would get along more.
NAH. Being in a relationship doesn’t negate your existing friendships, nor new ones you form. Nicknames come with that territory.
But your GF isn’t an AH either. You guys are still young, still exploring and learning about each other, yourselves, relationships, etc.
I’d like you to do me this favor, and I don’t want you to let me know the results. I’d like you to sit down with your GF, and ask her why it bothers her, why she thinks it’s inappropriate. Do not try to explain things, in fact while she’s talking I want you to actively ignore any attempts your brain will make to try and answer or rebuke(in the debating sense) her points, and instead listen to and absorb what she says. I say this previous sentence because it is human nature to try and come up with answers and points while someone else is talking. It is a natural reaction. It takes active work to not engage in the behavior. Only when she has finished talking, formulate your points. Hopefully she will open up to you if you show her you are actively trying to understand her POV, and you guys will be able to work past the issue.
NTA but your gf did express she’s uncomfortable w it, so just ask your coworker to stop
The truth is that I wouldn’t find anything wrong because nicknames are affectionate ways of calling friends and they make us feel closer to them. It could be that your girlfriend thinks that she has some interest in you. You could talk to her and make her understand that. If not, you could talk to your friend and tell her that at least she shouldn’t call you that in front of her to avoid problems.
NTA. Giving friends nicknames has got to be the most normal thing I’ve ever seen questioned on Reddit. For whatever reason, your GF seems very insecure, and I all but guarantee you it has nothing to do with you and started way before you became a couple. It’s something only she can change, which can only happen if she’s willing to see/acknowledge it first. Your friend stopping calling you nicknames will have absolutely no effect on her insecurity, because it’s something that comes from within her, not from without.