My husband recently died. Accidental fentanyl overdose. A recent habit begun that month before death,
Anyway I posted 2 stories of us smoking a joint because to me weed is akin to a cigar.
His family messaged nicely saying it was triggering and hurtful so I did delete. But am I an asshole for not considering the ramifications before I posted?
We are from California so it truly wasn’t a big deal and I have happy memories with him like that but yeah never wanted to be disrespectful
I’m dead inside now so what’s right? I don’t know
NTA everyone grieves differently.
I’m not going to call you an asshole when you’ve just recently experienced such a horrific, tragic loss. I’m so sorry. 😢 I would gently recommend you find a therapist and a grief support group. Reach out to friends and family. You don’t have to go this alone. Call in your support network and let them help you. ❤️🩹 NAH
Thank you ❤️🩹 That means a lot. I know leaning on others is hard, but I’ll try, no one should have to carry this alone.
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NTA…at all
You meant no harm, you were sharing a memory that can make you smile for just a second or two through your grief.
You respected the opinions of others when you found out how they viewed it.
I am so sorry you are going through this.
NAH
Sorry for your loss.
NTA while I respect the family not wanting that shown for you it wasn’t about the fact the joint was in the pic it was more of sharing a happy memory
Although I get why some people don’t like weed I just also cannot even compare it to other drugs because it simply just isn’t the same.
At the end of the day this also YOUR husband, so it’s also triggering for them to say take that down when your just trying to express your feelings
Sorry for your loss!
No Assholes Here – Emotions are too turbulent right now. You did nothing wrong, they did nothing wrong.
Only if things weren’t still so raw, I would have felt like it was more reasonable to maybe consider that others share your loss and how certain parts of your lives may appear to others only in retrospect. However, there’s absolutely no expectation that you could have thought that far ahead right now.
OP, I’m sorry for your loss. Please give yourself grace and forgiveness right now. Losing your husband means you have so much on your plate right now even aside from emotionally processing your loss. I hope you are finding the time to take care of yourself and that you have a good support system in place.
NAH. I’m very sorry for your loss.
No, you were remembering better times and I don’t think there was a way for you to know that would trigger his family. Weed isn’t the same as fentanyl. Now you know going forward. I think you’re good
NAH.
Sorry for your loss
NAH.
You did nothing wrong. NOTHING!
Cherish those memories, but do remember to live your life, and not live too much in the past.