Below is the conversation, transcribed
Friend: Let’s go to Italy, Venice
Me: Why? That’s so random
Friend: Why are you questioning
Me: Well, I thought it was a little random. Why venice? I’ve never seen anything from venice.
Friend: Stop questioning bruh, tf? It’s like I say I like ice cream and you ask why ice cream
Me: Yeah cuz I’m interested as in why you like ice cream not because I hate it because I want to know why you like it? Is it it the taste of ice cream? Why this specifically? Thus it can lead into a conversation about ice cream flavors
Friend: Because I want to???? Sometimes there’s no reason to everything. If I say I like Italy or Venice just accept it, unless if I say something like "I want to go to Venice because the city looks so cool."
Is asking why a person wants to go somewhere really a stupid thing to do??? It wasn’t even a hostile remark it was just out of pure curiosity
You’re NTA but I very much dislike people like you. This kinda “questioning “ style of talk is like when someone uses your name too much in a conversation and you know they read it somewhere that said it shows interest in the other person. But it’s absolutely not how humans converse.
Although when you first met someone and learn their name, using it frequently to begin with helps me ( and probably many others) put the name and face together. It’s in hope of not having that embarrassing moment some weeks later when you meet them by chance and realize you’ve forgotten their name.
NTA or maybe NAH
It sounds like you two need some time apart.
For the record, I wouldn’t be annoyed if I was asked “why Venice”, that’s a valid question to me, especially if I wanted them to go with me. I would be annoyed, and probably would just roll my eyes, if someone asked me why I like ice cream. And not just because I very much dislike ice cream.
I choose this style of conversation when my coworker is hungover. It’s hilarious!
The first response should be Hell yeah let’s go! And then ask why? That’s so random. Nta but show more enthusiasm if you want to show interest and continue a convo thru text.
YTA if you genuinely want to have a conversation just say that. “Venice, I don’t really know much about it, tell me more?” The way you did it comes across very snarky which I suspect you know
smh
NTA – I’m like this 😂 Geez. Sorry for wanting to know you better. My bad!
“Tell me more …” in my experience creates better conversation than just asking why.
NTA. That’s a valid question that your friend was dodging for some odd reason. I’d like to see the Rialto Bridge, myself.
You’re intent is well-meaning, but the delivery is poor.
Instead of, “Why? That’s so random” and, “Why venice? I’ve never seen anything from venice.”
You could say something not as easily able to be taken as judgemental or dismissive, and that leads directly into conversation about the topic, such as:
“Oh, that’s interesting. What’s your favorite thing there? What would you like to see first?”
“I don’t know much about Venice. What’s your favorite part?”
Ngl your friend is being childish.
It’s not asking about it that is the issue. It’s how you are asking and your following commentary on it sounds like you are criticizing them. Like you think it’s not a good choice and are judging them. That’s how this conversation came across to me. I’m imagining your tone probably didn’t help as that is part of why they would have gotten defensive. Maybe be more friendly and light about it.
“Oh yeah, Italy? Is there something about Italy you find appealing or want to go and do there? Like the food or an event?” Or “Huh, I never thought about going to Italy. What about it makes you choose that?” In a kind tone.
You know, things like that.
YTA. Your tone is condescending not curious. The “that’s so random” would trigger most people.
Next time go “cool, what do you want to see in Venice?” That would come across as much more polite if you’re genuinely just curious.
“Thats so random” is a very dismissive comment, borderline insulting depending on the context. Not sure if you’re aware of that but just it from your vocab. YTA