I’m 16F, came home today to see my room halfway taken apart. My mom decided to "clean my window", which turned into "deep cleaning my whole room". It’s not the first time she’s done something like that. I can be messy sometimes, I don’t clean regularly, however my mom did an actual deep clean, including going through my wardrobe and shelves. She also spilled some water, which got my ELECTRIC guitar cables wet. She refuses to acknowledge my point of view, and says to just "not plug it in right now". AITA?
NTA for expecting privacy.
That said, guitar cables see way worse than water on tour.
NTA but I forsee doing this to my daughter’s stank room at some point. We can only ask nicely for so many months/years.
ESH – at 16, you absolutely have a right to privacy and your own space and having a parent violate that is really shitty, especially if you haven’t been waving any red flags of drug use or anything else that’s dangerous to you or your family.
But.. take care of your space. She is maybe worried about bugs and pests which would concern the whole household. While it’s your space, it’s within a shared space that (I assume) is paid for by the hard work of your parents, and respecting that will go a long way.
If you don’t want your mother cleaning your room, then clean it yourself. Including a deep clean on occasion. You will have your privacy and she will be grateful she doesn’t have to spend hours cleaning up after you. I understand wanting to protect your privacy and for that you get NTA. But, be proactive if you want to protect it.