For context, before my parents received their income taxes, my family was struggling, and this was also the time when I started a new job. They kept asking me for money, and I gave it to them without complaint or questioning for months. They always said they would pay me back (they still haven’t), and I was okay with that. They’ve now gotten their income taxes, and they’re doing way better. I asked for the $50 they promised me if I did a couple of favors, but they only gave me a $30. I asked them about it, and I was fine ignoring the rest of the money if they just talked to me civilly, but then they just started going off on me, telling me I was ungrateful and just kept insulting me. In return, after letting them go off on me for asking about the rest of the money, I got angry and started to curse them out. I will admit I should’ve kept my cool. but for some reason, I got really angry at this and felt like I was wronged in a way. Especially because the $50 I was requesting for, doesn’t even begin to measure up to the amount I gave them and they promised me back. So I just wanted someone else’s opinion on this situation.
NTA, but it sounds like your family members are still struggling and are too proud to admit it.
NTA. So you only asked for small amount money they promised you for favors, but not the BIG money they already took without shame?
Then they had the audacity to attack you? You are too kind to them. Can you go low contact? They don’t respect you, as they treat you like a child with a thick wallet.
Please don’t give them anymore money.
They probably don’t have it. Tough situation
Yes and they’re embarrassed that they don’t have it.
such a shame. and all over the world there are a billionaires sucking money out of the middle class and poor. the billionaires are addicted to wealth and power. they don’t even appreciate what they have. they aren’t happy they always want more, and if only they would not take it from the middle class and poor, what a better world this would be.
quit loaning them money as they are ungrateful. just don’t have any available and squirrel it away.
nta they break their promise
You are getting off so cheap. $20 to never have to deal with “family” that will clearly be leeching off you for as long as you let them. Take the high road. Tell them to keep the $20 or $50 but to never contact you again as long as they do
NTA- they could’ve easily given you the 50 dollars back
YTA- Not being the bigger person and walking away over the other 20. Gotta consider what all they’ve done for you in their lives. Im indebted to my mom for raising me with what she had and would gladly accept little or no money from her if that were the case. Remember they won’t be around forever.
NTA
They owed you way more than 20 bucks. Apparently that $20 showed you where you fit into their priorities.
Call it cash well spent and move on. Now never lend, gift or do favors for those people again unless they treat you with respect and repay everything.
By all means send them holiday cards and drop them a note a few times a year. Whatever you do feel no guilt. Broke or not they can afford to treat you with respect and politeness.
NTA
My parents owe me 35k. Don’t fall into the same trap I did.