for context, i don’t usually ask for sugary drinks and when i do. it’s mostly just ice capps, which isnt all time since it’s not something i ask for weekly or even everyday. i’ll ask my mom when i feel like it, but when i do she makes it into a huge problem like oh you’re gonna have diabetes, you’ll die sooner if you keep this up. but when i don’t ask for one at all, she’ll be like do you want one? which makes things just really stupid in my opinion. if i’m going to be yelled at for having a sugary drink. why ask me if i want one when i never asked at all as to when the day it was.
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basically, anytime i’ll ask for a sugary drink which mainly just an ice capp, i am treated as if i’m gonna die from having one.
How old are you? You seem very young. If you are still living with your mom, she may just be expressing concern.
Sugar is definitely not the best but it’s important in any diet in moderation. Depending on your age she could be expressing concern for the caffeine and sugar content or could be trying to avoid buying them bc they are like 5-8 bucks a pop.
This part is because I grew up with a similar parent but with all sugar foods, drinks, and most food, but the key to a good diet is having a healthy relationship with food, eating guilt free (I’m talking like a donut or smth not a mountain of donuts loaded with syrups, extra sugar, and maple syrup lol) and eating with moderation, anything can be bad if you eat too much of it.
For now consider, what other sugary things you eat that she may be factoring into the iced Capp, the fact that it could be about price, and the fact that iced Capps do infact contain quite a bit of sugar and coffee. I’d introduce her to maybe a sugar free iced Capp? Also it could be about preventing a caffeine addiction, it is quite brutal and easy to fall into, especially since it’s a very social drink anf it doesn’t impair the mind.
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Forgot to rate, I don’t interact much here.
Your definitely not the asshole for asking, especially if your in line at at a Timmie’s with your mom or just in general. And your mom is not the asshole for saying no. It’s a want not a need. I do think your mom kind of sucks for saying that you’ll get diabeties or die if you keep eating sugary snacks and drinks especially if you don’t have them that often.
22, but usually if im having waffles or pancakes i dont use maple syrups or syrups on it since i don’t really like as much and is sticky for me. i use cream cheese instead. ice capp wise is only a small size, there are times where i do get a light ice capp or small ice coffee. my mom has tried the light ice capp and didnt not like. i should preface too she drinks coffee every morning in a huge tumblr to work
Holy shit that is barely any sugar, does she say stuff when you eat other sugars too or when you buy your own sugary drinks? She’s an asshole for saying that you’re gonna die for eating so little sugar. Also, agreed syrup is way too sticky
INFO: How old are you? Do you live at home?
22 and do live at home
Might be time to move out so you can eat what you want, but I don’t feel like I have enough context to judge this.
NAH. Sounds like mom is just concerned about your health. There are so many details we don’t know that could contribute here. Does diabetes or other weight related health issues run in the family? Has your doctor mentioned to your mom that you should cut back sugar intake or eat more healthy? Was your mom overweight and bullied at your age? Etc. Etc. Etc. Bottom line though, it doesn’t necessarily sound like your mom is shaming you, just coming from a place of concern. She could also be torn inside between wanting you to be healthy and wanting you to enjoy a treat leading to the mixed messages. This could be a good opportunity for a discussion to understand where you both are coming from. Maybe agree to a compromise like you can have one ice capp on the weekend or if you’re out and can have a treat together.
dad has diabetes (not sure exactly where it stemmed from) my mom when i went to the doctors with her, was told high blood pressure from the amount of salt.
You’re very young to have high blood pressure. Also diabetes can be genetic in some cases. Sounds like your mom just loves you and cares about both your health and happiness.
Your mom is catastrophizing and should be aware that chicken little actions lik3 that are just as likely to cause legiticmatebconcerns to be ignored, its wotth remembering that overdoing something can lead to problems but obsession justvmakes the times thinga are ok show that any concern is silly