My gf and I are both in college at different places. I drive to visit her, and parked where she told me to park. I have parked in the same spot in my one past trip and have been fine, but this time I got towed. After looking more closely for myself, there is clearly visitor parking in the front by the fence. She says she was just told when moved in that visitor parking was “by the fence” (theres fences around the entire lot).
Now, we both dont have much money, but she has slightly less and has less help from family. They want $364 for the tow. I see it as, you’re the host you should not make assumptions when it comes to stuff that could incur significant costs. She sees it as why should I know, I’m never a visitor, my friends have been fine parking where you did in the past. AITA for wanting her to pay and saying it is her fault?
Side note: There are not tow signs anywhere in the lot. There are spots tucked in the corner that say visitor, but easy to miss. One sign one gate. Thats all.
ESH. She sucks for telling you to park there, & not knowing where the designated parking area is for visitors. Ultimately it’s your responsibility to make sure you’re not parking in a tow away spot.
Your car, and you parked it yourself. It’s ultimately your responsibility to make sure you park where you’re allowed.
YWBTA
YTA. Your car, your responsibility to read signs and park correctly. Somewhere that campus has a sign about parking permits and guest parking.
I think when YOU park YOUR car, you need to make sure it’s legal. Businesses and apartment complexes don’t randomly have cars towed without a reason. YTA.
YTA
It’s your car, you should be aware of signs when you park
Legally I expect it’s the driver’s responsibility to check the signage. If you feel that you have a moral imperative to make her pay regardless then IMO YTA and you maybe jeopardising the relationship. Pragmatically speaking you maybe more successful asking her to pay half, but I wouldn’t suggest even going that far.
YTA. As the driver of the vehicle, you alone are responsible to verify where it’s safe and legal to operate and park your car.
YTA for not reading the signs about parking.
Actually it is your fault. Tow zones or restricted parking is always clearly marked. So is visitor parking. There is no way that there were not signs warning you that you could be towed. You clearly ignored those signs.
YTA, your car your responsibility.
Also, this is you girlfriend. I’m a big believer in picking you battles, and this absolutely seem like one to broach
Sounds like you both messed up here, but at the end of the day you’re responsible for where you park. If you’ve been thinking, “it’s all her fault” since it happened, YTA because you haven’t even entertained the idea that you had a part in this. It seems very entitled of you, if I’m being honest, you need to work on personal responsibility and holding yourself accountable. Big boy pants, and all that.
YTA. You should have just sucked it up, paid it and told her that it wasn’t an okay place to park and if she has anyone else visit her to remember to tell them not to park there. She could have gotten the wrong information and passed that on to you, but you’re the one parking so ultimately it’s your responsibility to look for signs for confirmation that you actually can.
I got a hefty ticket for doing the same thing, no parking zone unless you have a permit. I was told I could by a relative that just moved into the place. I paid the ticket, and the next time I was there I looked for the sign. It was partially covered, but still visible enough, about halfway down the block (I did call the city to fix it). I let my relative know what happened and to warn other visitors not to park there. I did not ask for money to help pay, I was offered money to help pay, but didn’t take it because it is my responsibility to be aware of the signs that factually tell me what I can and can not do.
It’s your responsibility as driver to make sure you’re obeying the rules. If she told you the speed limit was 40mph would you blindly obey it? Who would be responsible if you got a speeding fine?
However the fact that she hasn’t offered to help you out at all says a lot about your relationship.