My cousin M30s recently moved in with I M21 and my grandma F78. For context I am physically disabled and can’t work. This causes me to sleep more than others. I own a Cat F1 and dog F4 and my grandma owns a Cat M14 and dog M1. I haven’t trained them their whole lives my dog used to be my SD but due to an event I had to retire her. We have simple rules for them. Main ones being I don’t like when people yell at them (they don’t deserve that) and the dogs are not allowed in the kitchen when we are cooking. I have had to ask him multiple times not to scream at the dogs. Simply telling them to go lay down or asking me to take Ginny does the trick most times. They are just exci6qhen he gets home from work. And today I asked the dogs to leave the kitchen and he got upset at me and said "they aren’t my dogs so I don’t have to do that" and I told him it will confuse them and cause them to think it’s ok. He’s now upset at me for telling him what to do and saying I never take care of them so I should have a say when infact I do take care of them he’s just usually at work. AITA? SIDENOTE: yes I do sleep in but I and my grandma have worked out something that works for us. He has here since September and still does these things.
Dog trainer here. It’s on you as the owner to keep your animals happy and prevent them from distress.
You need to be firmer with your cousin and say that the rules for the dogs are followed, or somebody needs to leave the house.
Its not explicitly mentioned but as you’ve said you’ve asked them to “not scream” at them, that he also does this.
This has to stop OP. Your cousin isn’t compatible with living with animals.
Nta they need structure. Pet gates would help you though if he’s unwilling, take the stress off i have one that I use when want them out of the kitchen, and other places but most times they roam around.