I am 29m my wife is 28F. Married in 2025. In relationship since 3 years though. At our place it’s rare for an unmarried couple to live together, everything happened after marriage. She’s an awesome partner in general, but a heavy sleeper. The problem is she very rarely wakes up to her own alarm, I end up turning it off.
Earlier we both had roughly a similar sleep schedule, so I had no issues turning off her alarm and waking her up. But recently I had a shift in sleeping pattern and now I sleep around 1.5 hours late and hence wake up 1.5 hours late. I like this new schedule more, it’s suiting me better.
But her alarm has become a problem. I would’ve no issues if she turns off her alarm on her own. It’s irritating when I’ve to do it, as it doesn’t suit me now.
I bought this issue with her and she installed some loud alarm app which requires you to solve 3 arithmetic questions in order to turn it off. It has a very loud & piercing sound like a siren. It works for her, but she takes like 10 mins to turn it off, which completely disturbs my sleep. It’s so loud that it startles me awake. It’s happening daily which is making my daily mornings starting with a frustrated mind instead of a calm, relaxed one.
We’re having arguments over it. I want her to disable that loud alarm and start waking up to a normal one. She recommended me to temporarily sleep in other room until she gets used to the loud alarm and starts turning it off much sooner. I asked her to sleep in other room as she’s the one responsible for this problem
AITA her expressions suggest she’s offended/upset now