It all started when my gf sent me a post saying "my baby if my genes win" the post depicted a very white baby, blond with blue eyes. I am not a white man, I don’t have blond hair or any of the features the child had in the post so I simply stated to her "too not be too hopeful that our child will be this white" she answered saying "I know:(" acting very disappointed and sad and that made me feel very unworthy and hurt as if she had to "put up" with the fact that her babies might not have the features she wants. So I told her that if she cared so deeply about these things maybe I’m not the right person to have a baby with since I do not posses these features at all. She then says that she’s allowed to have hopes about the child’s future appearance, which isn’t the issue, it’s the fact that she looked very disappointed that hurt me. Before I could express myself more clearly she went to bed and here I am wondering if I’m not the problem in this story.