For some context my uncle and I never really got on. We both come from an extremely wealthy family but due to my mum and her sister being girls they dont really have any access to the assets while he was set up with businesses, a house etc. We struggled quite a lot financially wise so I always grew up a little bitter towards him for that as he was borrowing against my grandads properties, taking the rent etc.
He eventually got married to a women who is completely awful, she hates our culture, she hates our family and wants my family nowhere near her kids. She was given my grandparents house we all grew up in (worth around 2M), she constantly upset my grandad in his last couple of years especially in regard to his new grandchildren (e.g he would be playing aith his grandson and she would go and pick him up and take him away) She has been pretty rude and awful to our family but they all kiss her ass because shes the wife of the boy.
I started to resent my uncle even more when I found out I had a first cousin that he had with a random women through a dna app, my aunt told him about it and he said he wants nothing to do with it and we were all told not to mention it.
My grandad passed a couple of days ago, everyone was there except me and my brother who had a flight the next day because we had to fly abroad. He was dying and my uncle chose to leave to go home to his wife because she nagged him to come home because she was struggling with the new baby. He got a call after he checked his baggage in that his dad had passed and he left to go home anyway. He has been calling constantly, barking orders at his sisters about the funeral over the phone and overall really getting to me. I have refused to talk to him on FT (just walking away not announcing it) or having anything to do with speaking about him and his new family.
He left my grandad down so much at the end of his life but continues to rinse the family assets and get coddled by everyone and have everyone faunt over him and his wife who is just awful. While my mums family have been pretty nasty to my dad (my parents are split) but my dad has done SO much for my mum and that side of the family, it all just gets to me so much. Am I the asshole? He just lost his dad and idk if i’m being too harsh but something inside me makes me so mad. I will constantly be short when people are mentioning him and just go sulk upstairs
NTA