So my best friend of 3 years recently met this guy, I have not yet personally met him so I have very little knowledge of who he is outside of what she’s told me. To put it short he doesn’t have many goals for himself and is content with doing nothing with his life. My best friend is the complete opposite she has lots of goals and ambitions. So their personalities already kind of clash.
Yesterday she told me that he was being kind of weird so being a good friend I of course let her vent to me about it. She explained to me how he has this odd obsession with yanderes and is pushing her to make those kinds of asmr videos. He also follows specific TikTok accounts where the girls are certainly trying to appeal to a certain audience.
Originally when she told me I told her that it was weird and that she should confront him so she did. And I thought everything after that would just be up to her. But earlier today a mutual friend of ours asked me what I thought about the situation so I told her the same thing I had told my best friend(thus was in a groupchat) They both didn’t say anything else after but I messaged the mutual friend after asking if I said something wrong. She then told me that my best friend thinks i’m mad and being too serious and I feel guilty and I’m not sure if i did something wrong.
NTA.
You gave honest feedback when asked. You didn’t insult her, control her, or escalate the situation. If she’s uncomfortable now, it’s likely because the truth hit closer to home, not because you did anything wrong.
NTA, but unfortunately you can’t really make your friends or family choose any different partners than they do. You just have to wait and let it all play out. Be there for your friend and support her. If it isn’t right for her it won’t be. If she is in her early 20s it will statistically probably not work out but you never know. Maybe he’ll be inspired by her and start working harder, and get rid of any weird ppl he follows online.
NAH. Your friend is probably just upset about the truth. She asked you a question and you answered. Friends keep it real with each other. She’ll get over it. She needs to communicate with you on how she feels though and not somebody else and vice versa. Leave the 3rd party out.