First time poster here, So Context. I (16) F and my friend (17) F have been friends since the start of our middle school, we had some problems and all, but when we got to high school we started talking again and quickly became friends again. Anyhow, said friend was last year in a relationship with a guy that I was friend with long before they became a couple. They started dating and all, it lasted like 4-5 months with them breaking up and me reconciling them times and times again (AT THEIR REQUESTS BTW) and They officially ended the relationship like 2-3 months ago. While in winter break, the guy (18) M wouldn’t stop asking me to plead with my friend to give him back his camera for a while cuz he needed it for a project of his urgently, so I told her what he told me and she was very dismissive, saying sure I’ll give it him but only when we get to school. I was like okay cool you do you. Came back to school day, she didn’t give it to him, so he texted me again and asked me to plead with her again, and so I did, and when I told her she just snapped at me, saying that if he needed something he should just say it to her face not send the message through me and that I wasn’t his "carrier pigeon" to pass his messages for him, threatening to not answer me again if I relied to her one of his messages again. My two other friends I told were saying I was maybe overreacting, but she was honestly just so rude and mean about it, she could’ve just explained to me that it upset her and I would’ve completely understood and respected that, she didn’t have to be so rude. so I was wondering, am I the asshole for just relaying a message?
NTA for relaying the message. Your male friend does need to talk to her though, but with a witness. Maybe not you since you’re already in a tight spot. Maybe another friend of his.
You should probably try to stay out of their spat until things calm down.
That’s what I’m doing, I told him to figure it out himself and that I didn’t want any part in their problems anymore, might have been harsh, I’ll suggest what you said and thank you !
NTA but your friend needs to grow some balls or stop dating. Also stop getting in between your friends relationships.
Fair enough, but I honestly never got in between their relationship unless asked to by both of them. I didn’t want any problems, just did as asked. And thank you for the feedback, I appreciate it !
You honestly never should even if they ask, I get that you’re young and learning so I’ll give you a pass for that. But getting involved in these things can make it look like you’re picking sides or can cause drama. Your friend is using you to avoid confrontation. It’s his problem and not yours to fix, so best to let them deal with it.
YTA stay out of the middle of peoples relationships. If you don’t want to be called a carrier pigeon, don’t be one!
You need to stop this madness and stick up for yourself and tell them to deal with each other and leave you out of it!
You are not the AH, they are assholes for using to you as a go between. Tell them to kick rocks and deal with each other or stay the hell away from each other.
No, your friend is correct. So stop it, carrier pigeon.
Yta, don’t get in the middle of their relationship, it’s not your space. It’s not your fault she hasn’t returned his camera, and you should have told him so. You really aren’t being as helpful as you believe.
Do you mean relaying?
Yes
Now it makes sense.
“I’M NOT AN OWL!”
—Hermione Granger
Holy moly teenage drama is exhausting!