My partner who is 21m and I 21f have two kids. Our first child came from a complicated situation, but then on his family has tried to ignore her or try to treat her like she isn’t family. A couple months after we had her I ended up being pregnant with our second child. Before anyone could tried to start the same stuff I made it clear if someone try’s to favorite one over the other, they will not be allowed to be in their lives because I do not want that around the kids. Everyone respected that besides his mom and older sister because his mom in general only wanted to get to our kids because his older sister cut her off from her child due to what his mom‘s boyfriend has been doing. The only thing I asked from the older sister and younger sister was not not to do that (favorite one over the other)His younger sister always comes around, always always asked to play with both of the kids, his older one only ever ask about him or our son recently, she asked for just photo’s (for a photo album) of him and William. I feel bad because I don’t want our daughter or son thinking differently just because she doesn’t ask for her’s, but I don’t know. Am I in the wrong
I’m not sure if you’re doing it on purpose, but you are being very vague and not at all clear on what is going on. Is your partner’s family biologically related to both children?
You are not clear about the first child’s complicated situation
INFO: WHAT DID THE MUM’S BOYFRIEND DO??
It comes across that he may be a predator how you have written it and if he is accused of anything you should not have him around your kids
I will never have him near them, he had a weapons he legally wasn’t allowed to have, and it ended up making my partner’s younger sister go outside to deal with because he did not wanna go out there. Way before that my partner called his mother out and she backed him into a corner with a chair. I’m sorry if it was short I just don’t know how to use this app that good , I’m sorry
I was gonna ask what the situation was, but honestly it doesn’t matter because your child isn’t responsible for it and you and your husband have clearly made the choice to stay together through whatever the complicated situation was.
If you do not want them favoring one child over the other, you need to set and enforce those boundaries and not allow them to do things that clearly favors one over the other, and your husband needs to have your back and do the same.
INFO How can you possibly think that anyone could judge this with all of the information you’ve left out?
Info is the first child biologically yours
What?
His family sounds toxic AF! If anyone favors one kid over the other, go no contact, until they can prove that they have changed. It’s not fair to your kids to allow people around them, who favor o e over the other. Just because you were young, doesn’t make your child a pariah! Sit them down and explain that you will absolutely not tolerate any favoritism and that you have no problem doing what’s best for your kids. If they don’t listen, follow through!
Thank you honestly, because it’s just been like a circle going around around and I don’t wanna feel bad for not trying to let them have a relationship with our kids, but they keep doing the same thing and I don’t want one of them to feel neglected towards the other family members
NTA. Protect your babies. They don’t get to see either one. Honestly, it sounds like mom’s BF is a dangerous person and shouldn’t be around kids. That alone gets them blocked.
Sounds like the younger sister is OK
I’m sorry but I’m very confused, but what has happened that made you think one of your kids was being favored? Like what was the “complicated situation” with your daughter? Etc etc. just wanted clarification and context to better understand but totally get that this is probably your first time posting.
Edit: it just seems like nothing really happened to make it look like one of your kids is being favored over the other.
You need to stop being so goddamn vague. We need ages of everyone involved , fake names to refer to people, and better sense of timeline. “complicated situation” means literally nothing here. All the stories here are complicated, that’s why you’re here for judgment. Try again.