I (16 F) have been best friends with this girl, let’s call her Jenna since kindergarten.
We got separated during middle school but still talked every day.
Last year, I started high school and convinced her to come to the same high school as me since she hated all of the kids she was with in middle school(who also were my old elementary school classmates).
The issue is that she has this tendency to get mad over things that aren’t people’s fault and then ignore them for days on end until they cave and apologize. I’ve told her multiple times how much this bothers me and last time we argued she agreed she wouldn’t do it again.
Fast forward to December 23rd, it was the last day of school before Christmas break and schools in my area usually take the students to church on the last day as a field trip. the night before I threw up at like 3 AM and didn’t go to bed until 5, so my mom the next morning told me that I probably shouldn’t go, it wasn’t even an important day anyways.
So, obviously I didn’t go. It was 7 AM at that point,so I texted Jenna because I thought she would want to know that I wouldn’t be at school. Then, I went back to bed and woke up to a call from Jenna thirty minutes later, she asked me why I wasn’t coming. I told her I threw up the previous night and she started telling me that maybe it was just something I ate and that I should come.
Mind you, all I could think about at that point was going back to sleep, especially since I had barely slept. I said something along the lines of, “yeah, okay, bye Jenna.” And hang up.
I woke up at around 11, scrolled on instagram and I sent her a reel and she left me on read, so I texted her asking her if everything was okay and she left me on read again. Fast forward to like 2 AM, I text her telling her that if I did something wrong I was sorry and that she should tell me. She responded with a bunch of paragraphs telling me that I shouldn’t have hang up on her, that I should have come to school etc. I apologized for hanging up and she told me that she didn’t want to talk to me, so I said okay and just didn’t bother texting her until Christmas came. On Christmas I texted her ‘Merry Christmas’ and she didn’t even the read the message even though she was active.
Fast forward to NYE, she posted a 2025 recap with photos of all of her friends(friends that she has been saying have consistently been leaving her out and didn’t even include me), so I blocked her.
Now I’m wondering whether I was right to block her or not. I just don’t know if I can deal with her constantly treating me like I don’t exist every time we argue. Like, yes, I shouldn’t have hang up on her but I just don’t see it as that big of a deal especially considering she’s hang up on me countless of times before. Right now I just need a break from worrying about how she’ll react and trying to get her to forgive me. I love her to death, she’s my oldest friend but the way she acts when we fight is insane.
So, AITA for blocking her?
Jenna sounds like an exhausting, miserable, person. Protect your sanity because she’s the star of her own show. You don’t need to be her stage crew.
Sorry love, but that is not a friend.
I had friends like this when I was younger, it’s easier said then done but save yourself the headache and drop her.
NTA. it took me until I was 25 to recognise people like that as dangerous and draining people and start protecting my peace around them, you’ve done amazing to have it click so young and it will serve you well as you become an adult!
just a word of warning though that she WILL make you the villain in the story to herself and anyone who’ll listen, so make sure you have a good group of friends around you who know what actually happened and will have your back 🫶🏻
Silent treatment is commonly considered emotionally manipulative.
Silence is used as leverage. It creates anxiety, confusion, and a power imbalance. You are left guessing what you did wrong, when communication will resume, and whether the relationship is threatened. That pressure can pushes you to apologize, over explain, or abandon your own boundaries just to restore contact with her.
She gives no clear explanation given, timeframe and it happens repeatedly.
Your boundaries are not demands. They are statements of what you will do. Follow through and leave her blocked.
NTA.
You absolutely did the right thing blocking her. Jenna is not a good friend, and I’m proud of you for being able to see that at such a young age and take the step to cut her out of your life. Toxicity is never good, no matter how long you’ve known someone or how much you care about them. It’s okay to not want someone around anymore, it’s okay to not want to deal with their bs anymore. It’s okay to outgrow old friends.
nta
this reminded me of being 16 (i’m 25) n friends like this did not serve any purpose in my life
she is rude and not worthy of your time
don’t deal with this for the next two years just to anyways go seperate ways in college
start branching out
As an old, trust me, she is not your friend. It may hurt, but staying does not get better. There is a difference between “I don’t want to talk right now” and “I’m not talking to you until you apologize for something that you didn’t do”
You did yourself a MASSIVE favour. You are NTA