We were fighting and the fighting went into the next day just barely by like 2 or 3 minutes. She’s done things like messsge her ex 2 weeks into our relationship saying that she misses him, and to “come over” and I said something like “my ex of 3.5 years never made me worry about the future our relationship, this is not normal. It’s because of the things you do.” She told me that I shouldn’t have brought her up on this day, and that “no one will side with me for doing so”. Is she correct?
Read that post again. She messaged her ex and said she missed him and invited him over. For what? A coffee?
And calls you the bad guy, Wow.
Run. Just get out of this toxicity.
NTA
YTA for not breaking up with her.
Why are you to even together. Everyone sucks for letting this relationship happen in the first place
ESH and she’s got a phd in gaslighting
NTA. She’s certainly not over her ex and you using your ex as a counterpoint instead of calling her out for trying to cheat shows that you might not be over your own ex either. Do yourself a favor and get away from her before you invest more into a relationship she’s not fully committed to before you end up emotionally hurt.
Makes me wonder how many times she’s sent that message since…
ESH. NEVER EVER, EVER, EVER use your former partner as a comparison point to your current partner. Not even if you think it is the most flattering thing to say. The risk of it going bad is significant. Further, what you said was passive aggressive.
She sucks for obvious reasons.