I notice my roommate doesn’t wash his hands after he uses the restroom, I’ve noticed this every time. I said to him while he walked out of the bathroom “You gotta wash your hands after you piss that’s nasty” was I too forward? I just feel like it’s gross! I feel like it’s basic hygiene. I’m just worried I was too direct. I don’t know, let me know.
NTA, unhygenic people should be shamed if they can help it.
NTA but you have to know that even if (*even if*) he complies while you are around he won’t when you aren’t there. Basically every light switch you touch, ever drawer handle, the remote control, and so on will be covered in his filth. If you ever rub your eyes or touch your fingers to your lips you will be transferring it there. People like him are disgustingly inconsiderate but they will never get it. If they were capable of it they wouldn’t be like that in the first place.
The idea itself is truly disgusting.
Maybe OP could send her roommate lots of articles and videos about hygiene every time she sees this happen again.
She has to reprogram him!
NTA that’s nasty bro.
NTA, I said the same to a former roommate who often went directly from the toilet to the fridge 😵💫
NTA. You’re right. That IS nasty.
If he’s grown enough to live with roommates, he’s grown enough to wash his hands. You didn’t scream at him, you just said the bare minimum.
NTA.
He’ll be touching everything on the place you live in, you’re entitled to expect basic hygiene.
Doesn’t mean he’ll learn from it, sadly.
NTA. He is not a stranger in a public bathroom. You have to live with him and touch things (including food) that he has touched. It’s fair enough to say something.
I feel sorry for guys like this and wonder what was wrong with their parents. I work in a field where there are many men who have trouble with dating. They’re the type who blame women for being “materialistic” or only wanting men who look like movie stars. It’s not that. It’s that they lack basic social skills.
Things like not washing their hands when appropriate, spitting in front of other people, not saying “please” or “thank you,” saying “I need” in restaurants when ordering instead of “I would like” or “could I have,” etc, etc. The point is, you’ve done him a favor.
NTA. dudes think just cause they didnt wipe their ass that their hands arent dirty. If you touched the toilet handle to flush, that handle’s got poo particles on it from all the times you wipe and then flush! Even belts and pants buttons are covered in poo germs from buttoning back up after wiping. So even if you didnt poop while peeing, just the act of lowering your pants requires you to wash your hands
NTA. Sorry his parents didn’t teach him good hygiene (and apparently neither did a lot of guys’ parents in this post?).
Both dudes I’ve dated and lived with as well as my ex husband were pee and wash guys. My son was taught to be as well. When we touch surfaces that have germs, we wash our hands.
You (hopefully) wouldn’t grab things inside a barn and then come inside without washing your hands right? Why is touching the toilet handle different?
Ya that is super gross. I’d be flagging that too. NTA
Most guys have spent a lifetime learning not to piss on their hands.