So I’m 17 years old and was feeling lonely so I went online where I made this friend online. Now we have only been friends on the internet for a day. Now she is 27 and again I am 17, and we hit it off pretty well. Then this morning she asked me, can i do her a favor. I considered us friends so i said sure, but in a sense of like i can try. So she asked if I could get her a gift card and she said she send erotic stuff if I did. Now mind you these next few things I don’t have a job and truthfully my family’s financial state isn’t all that great and admittedly i was a little horny, so I said ill try. So come later in the day when i’m near a store and they are out of the gift card she wanted. I come home later and explain this to her because I don’t have my phone and couldn’t tell her immediately. So when i explained this to her she called me a bad friend and said I broke a promise. Mind you again if i didn’t say it before I said ill try. So she gets upset, and i call her out on how this is essentially grooming(side note i told her at some point i didn’t want the photos) and she said is that what i thought this was. I told her yes and gave a breakdown of why. I was gonna block her but she said we are still friend’s and i need to understand women language(or how they speak or whatever) so I don’t end doing that. So not longer after she ask if i can get her another one and I said i don’t think i can, she is calm. Then later she ask if i can get the card online and I say I can’t. She then said that i never really wanted to help her and that i wasn’t really her friend. So I tried to tell her to fuck off, but when i did she said she isn’t a bad person and she might get upset easily but that doesn’t mean she hates me. I get upset and confused and tell her to make up her damn mind and she says if i continue like this i’ll learn nothing(i’m assuming she meant stuff about her like whats she is into). So i haven’t blocked her yet.
Am being a bad friend, should I block her? I honestly am confused and can really use help and advice.
AITA?
I’m sorry dude but this reeks of a scam.
NTA, this is emotional manipulation. Are you sure she is who she sais she is, have you considered the possibility it’s actually a scammer? It sounds like typical scammer behaviour 🙁 So sorry you are being disappointed by someone you thought is a friend
She’s a scammer who’s trying to steal from you. She’s not your friend and she’s probably not even female.
Please take this to heart- no 27 year old needs anything from a 17 year old.
You aren’t friends, this is a scam. Find some friends your own age.
I’m glad I accidentally caught this by a whim. Your “friend” is a scammer and likely not even a girl. I imagine you met this person through Snapchat or Discord, or maybe something similar. Point is, these services are designed to make things like this happen so shitty people make more and more accounts, whether or not they’re good people because it sounds great to investors when the numbers go up. Block this girl and find some friends your age in person. Online experiences are just that: Online.
You did the right thing in calling her out and it’s good you avoided everything.
This is 100000000% a scam, stop contact altogether.
NTA. This is inappropriate, and yes you should block her. I don’t know what country your in, and I know the age of consent varies, but this is not okay. A “friend” should never make you feel uncomfortable like that. Be very careful on the internet, and don’t trust anyone you haven’t met in person, especially if they ask you to buy them things.
You are definitely not a bad friend and you clearly have such a good heart from this post but trust me when I say this sounds insanely sus especially the gift card aspect and you should block them. I’d recommend finding a sub with people similar in age or hobbies and connect there. You have a great heart, don’t let people take advantage of that ❤️❤️
This is not a woman but a scammer sitting in either a scam center or a mud hut in a foreign country. Do not send him a gift card and no one is your friend after talking on the Internet for 1 day. He is using manipulation to make you feel guilty. He will contact you and when he realizes you aren’t sending him a gift card, he will move on.
I agree. All the hallmarks of a scammer. Just to let you know, there is a particularly nasty scam called sextortion. They can send you nude photos claiming they are of themselves. Loads available free on the internet.
In return, they ask you for nudes of yourself. At that point, they threaten to send your nude photos to your friends, family etc unless you send money and gift cards. Kids have killed themselves because of this.
Block this person.
See link
https://www.met.police.uk/advice/advice-and-information/online-safety/online-safety/sextortion/
Oh, sweet child. This is a common scam. I’m sorry. Stop talking to this person immediately. Block and dont look back.
NTA
You are being scammed. This person is not a friend. They are just trying to take money from you. Don’t pay strangers om the internet. Duh.
“She” is a scammer, as simple as that.
It’s probably not even a woman behind the screen, but that’s not important, remember that they prey on your solitude and horniness to get money so be aware next time.
Block, report and move on, NTA.
The moment the words “gift card” enter a conversation with a stranger (as in, a person that you do not know in real life), it is a scam.
They do it that way so there are no bank transfers that can be traced to their accounts, and it saves them the hassle of trying to set up fake accounts (which also happen but is much more difficult for them these days). But fake accounts (or rather, real accounts under fake names or via identity theft) happen too, so being asked for a bank transfer is NOT a sign of it being “not a scam”.
You are lucky that the store did not have any, “she” would have kept asking for more and more if you had sent any.
You are very young, so you haven’t heard about all these types of things that happen online yet, but kudos to calling out this person when you did not feel comfortable in the situation! Stick with those instincts, they’ll serve you well in life!
Very much NTA, and block “her” immediately!