For context, there is a local band where I live which me and my former friend both love. due to unrelated, not important to the story stuff, that friend never wanted to speak to me again.
A year later, I have gotten into the local music scene, and was able to collaborate on a song with this band. I did this due to my own love of said band and my own musical aspirations.
my former friend dmed me angrily, saying I was essentially betraying us never speaking again by doing this.
Was this wrong? I sort of understand what they mean but, I didn’t do it because of them and want to have my own career.
NTA
Your ex-friend is whack
NTA. Not even a little bit of an AH. I don’t understand at all how this friend could see your collaboration as wrong in any wa6. You owe them nothing as you have no relationship with them. This is about you and your career. Don’t let them make you lose focus. Keep doing you. Onward and upward 👊🏻👍🏻
NTA Live your life and do what suits you. DMing you saying you were “essentially betraying us never speaking again by doing this” is kind of funny. If you two aren’t speaking, why bother DMing? I mean, how have you two not blocked each other?
Sounds to me like they might just be jealous, but that’s only assuming what made them want to stop talking is really unrelated (I can’t think of a situation where it WOULD be related though)
If it’s really unrelated, I don’t think it’s unreasonable to want to work with a band you enjoy, especially if it’s a beneficial career move. Even people who don’t do that as a career dream of being able to do something like that. I think you should enjoy your victory even if they’re displeased.
tell them I am not speaking to you but no one said you won the band in the “divorce”. If anything I did because they are working with me. Then said them a picture of you with the band, and then BLOCK them 🙂 I love being petty
NTA. Just respond with “Don’t speak to me”.
NTA
You do you.
What if you to cross paths at the same Walmart….? Should you deeply apologize?
NTA You have the freedom to do what you want.
NTA, for this particular scenario. Your friend sounds like they need counseling to get over you or something
Oh my god, stop giving a fuck what other people think about you and do what you want
This. It sounds so harsh but at the end of the day what’s it matter if they’re upset. YOU AREN’T FRIENDS IT MATTERS NONE.
NTA. Unless she got to claim the band in your Extremely Official and Not At All Sarcastic Friendship Divorce Agreement, you can continue to love the band without issue, including all of the things that come with that. She can’t bar you from concerts or tell all the local record shops to not sell you their albums or merch.
This is the most ridiculous thing I’ve read on this sub in a long, long time and I love it.
NTA but your ex friend is weird for thinking that saying “I’m never going to talk to you again if you do this” is any type of ultimatum if you’re already not talking 😂 not only that but how self centered are they to think that you would work with a band just to spite him.
Go have fun collaborating!
Why would you turn down a great opportunity for someone who plans to never speak to you again? Yes, it’s unfortunate for them, but it’s not like you did it with a band that you didn’t care about but the other person loved just to “get them” somehow.